SELF OBSERVATIONS

Friends

One of the important requirements for a successful professional is to be self observant. The self observations in relation to the behaviour, thinking process, presentation, communication, feelings, actions, discipline etc. is a very effective tool to develop oneself as a successful professional. No one in this world is perfect and it is not required too. One should review the performance, challenges, right and wrong decisions, relationship, actions etc. Not all were perfect or right but we can change it .

If we observe minutely our natural behaviour and actions, their impact on others and the reactions we get from such behaviour or actions, it will not only be a great learning but the improvement in that would help us a lot. We need to spend some time to observe and review ourselves regularly to become successful.

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BLESSINGS

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Blessings are invaluable. No one can convert them in numbers and time. When a child takes birth he has the blessings of parents then gets the blessings of many many elderly people, Guru, Saints, etc. etc. These blessings supports him during the journey of life. In my view the blessings are the most valuable assets which are though invisible but very effective. So many times we feels escaped from some major incidence and then remember that some blessings helped us. Also for happy and prosperous life these blessings work wonder. All the members of a family never have same fate in life.

Though luck and attitude play major role but the importance of blessings can not be underestimated. Let me share with you a small story:

"An old rich man had 4 sons. Due to his illness he was bit tensed about the distribution of his wealth. He called his sons and said "Before I die, let me distribute the wealth amongst all of you so later on no dispute creates". All the 4 sons were sitting in front of him. The old man said that I would distribute the wealth according to the need so all the four sons live equally happy and prosperous life.

The eldest son was illiterate but doing well in business so he got about 10% share. He was more like contended person and mainly concerned with his immediate family. He never complained of anything nor demanded. Initially he was supported by the parents only.

Second son was not doing well but well educated and hence got 15% in the wealth. His attitude was not very positive and hence despite good education could not succeed in life. He was greedy and always interfered with other family members.

Third son who was very humble, self made and very well settled, got no share in the property. He was always ready to help any one in the family but never interfered in any of the family member's life. He was not darling of the parents. He never took any financial support from the parents and never thought of the share in wealth.

Fourth son was well educated, highly arrogant, negative attitude but most lovely to parents. He got 75% of the share in the property of the old man. This son was groomed in most protective manner and hence developed own circle of friends and relatives who could praise him.

After distributing the wealth old man got cured and started living healthy life again. Eldest son offered to give his share back but the old man denied. Second son started grumbling about such a low share and started troubling the old man. His intentions were to get more from the fourth son. This generated unhealthy relationship between second son, fourth son and the old man. The fourth son was still dissatisfied because he had expected 100% from the old man. He also started grumbling and create tension for the old man to take back the share given to both the other sons. With all the tensions and fights the old man fell ill. The medical expenses were increasing day by day. The eldest son denied to support him but he offered to return his 10% share if any one wants. Second son totally ignored the old man and became non communicado with ever one in the family. He kept the share of wealth with him. In fact he was planning how to take more share from the old man. Fourth son also became very arrogant with old man and did not extend any support for the medical support. The third son took great care of the old man and after some months the old man again got healthy life. The old man was thinking about the attitude of all the four sons.He was not very much upset with eldest one who at least offered to give his share back but the second and fourth hurt him too much. Despite 75% share to fourth son he took no care of the old man. The time passed and after some months the old man noticed that the fourth son had lost all the wealth and the second son was still not comfortable in life. Eldest son was living life of the same status as it was some years back but the third son had become very rich. Now he could afford anything and had no complain about the life. The old man had become very old and was living leisurely with third son. One day he asked the third son that despite no support from him how he could reach to a very high level. The son replied that you had not given him financial support but the blessings come automatically. These don't require the permission from the giver and automatically comes whether you like or not. To get the blessings one needs only good attitude. The son noticed that old man is not replying anything rather a small drop of tear on his cheek was coming down toward his chin. The old man got the answer which he never thought of."

Really friends we can steal the blessings even if some one not giving with our behaviour and attitude.

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The clock represents the time and continues to move irrespective to anything happening in this world. It irritates, it heals, it inspires and also it helps in memorising. We relate in almost everything with time. Till 15 hrs back we were waiting for Nikita and Parents to come and suddenly now you feel the house filled with love and affection. I know it is again temporary and after some days every one would be on own mission. This is life cycle and no one has control on this. The clock are designed round because the time would change constantly in the shape of cycle. It will move but come back again but in the process we would grow older moment by moment.

Presently reading a book "The Professional" by Mr. Subroto Bagchi. Mr. Bagchi has written three books so far in last about 5 years and all the books are good treasure for every middle class person. While reading the first book i.e. "The High Performance Entrepreneur" I felt as if this is written for me alone and I decided to build my own institution but there were some fears for its success and meanwhile as if Mr. Bagchi sensed my dilemma, he wrote another book named " Go Kiss the World". This book really gave the feeling and inspiration that any body can do any big thing provided he wish so. He was so humble in mentioning about his life and any one could relate to him. Here too the confidence built up to carry on the mission further but the tool was missing. Now he has come out with this third book which in simple way teaches what to do and what not to become a successful person. In my view one should read all these three books in chronological order.

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Friends

Satisfaction in the life is always a mental situation. We always dream to achieve the status of our idol whom we copy. The situation remains same and the only difference is that we replace that idol immediately once we feel that the existing parameters set by bus for getting satisfaction are now redundant. Every time we achieve something, we start comparing with some one who is beyond our achieved level. The dissatisfaction remains same irrespective to our commendable achievements. The moment we notice or come to know that some one of our age/level has achieved better than us, we start feeling dissatisfaction. We feel as if nothing has been achieved by us and again start reaching to the level of some other person. The tussle in the mind remains forever in one form or the other. It means the satisfaction is not in outside world, rather it is with in our self. It is Mrugtrishna which pressurises us to search the satisfaction in outside worlds whereas we have it already with in ourselves.

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Friends

Two disturbing thoughts were hitting my mind, so I thought let me share with you. These are :

1. Big city people always treat the smaller city people differently than the similar city person. I noticed many times this during the course of my professional assignments. Despite the fact that a person of small town may be highly knowledgeable, rich and reputed in the society than the person of big city, who may not even be well settled there. Even today some one coming from a village to a town would face different treatment, a town fellow going to city would face the same situation too. This goes on at every stage. City fellow going to metro and then overseas big cities and all. Typically in most of the cases the smaller area person ends up with low image and confidence as compared to the bigger one. He is taken for granted too many a times till the situation turns the table.

2. When we were young, whatever parents said we never mind that and followed their instructions irrespective of the consequence. We were refused to go to many parties, outings, movies etc. etc. and as soon as we started earning, got married our behaviour changed. We became more matured, intelligent, analytical and started taking their advices more in negative mode. Why this has happened that forget instructions even their suggestions were taken as threat to our ego. Would it not happen to us when we attain their age?What feeling they would be having on our responses? Would not they feel frustrate, irritate or helpless? The world is like a mirror, you get whatever you give and hence whatever response we are giving to our elders, we would be receiving same when we attain their age. So please beware.

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Exactly 20 years back, Shashi came into my life and we started journey of married life. Suddenly I felt socially promoted with complete change in life. Gradually came to know that this elevation has come with huge responsibilities towards my newly wedded partner, her family and my family. The period also coincided with tough struggle of life. Next five years were full of struggle socially and professionally. I moved out of Jaipur and it was Shashi who always stood behind me through out this phase. Never demanded anything, no luxury, no complain and always smiling. I salute her patience and fighting power in those days lot of responsibilities. Tremendous faith in my capabilities, belief in God and the sanskars of the parents made her strong enough to sail along with me through toughest time of our life.
The time has passed very fast and I don't feel like having married twenty years back, it seems not more than ten years old story. The life as family is really beautiful and challenging but nothing comes free in this world but in my opinion the price of getting married is almost nothing as against the benefits of happy married life.
I wish and pray to God that the life goes on like this and happily we complete next so many decades. It would not be possible without the blessings of parents and best wishes from every one.
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Friends

Every human being has different nature, character, aptitude, IQ, attitude, thought process, knowledge and mind set. All these factors play major role in shaping up of a person's destiny. Not only these in a family these affect complete family too. Trust, faith, dedication, sacrifice, love, affection, togetherness, sensitiveness and bonding are the result of the persons nature and attitude. A single person in a family can make the life miserable for every one. People fail to understand that the priorities of each and every one is also different and can not be same otherwise it would not have been family. I have experienced many times that kids have priority of either study or watching TV or playing games or chatting with friends whereas gents have work and sleeping on the top priority. These don't match with the priorities of home makers who are fully focused on getting house cleaning, bathing and completing breakfast. The priorities are understandable and every one in the family should try to consider the others' priorities and be flexible. However whenever we try to pressurise others to change the priority, clashes in disturbances starts in the life. Generally those with more powers in a family try to change the others' by force and that is where we spoil the family peace and happiness.

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This time Jaipur trip gave me a chance to visit my native village, SIDHARA. A small village with population of hardly 5000 having very less infrastructure and public facilities. Also the Jaipur trip provided opportunity to meet many relatives whom I miss very often. After Jaipur immediately went to Bangalore , then Pune, then Delhi and so on. The professional engagements always push to more and more trips in search of either new work or completing the existing assignments. The life goes on and would continue to be like that till we are fully satisfied with career and that would never happen.

It is really hard to understand what we doing and why we doing and what is in store in future. I am unable to understand this. Professionally days are mix of good & bad, dull & exciting, lucky & unlucky but the over all performance would be visible only if we take a view of longer period.

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Once upon a time a little cub lost in jungle and was abandoned by a shepherd. The shepherd took care of the cub along with the sheep and goats.The cub started growing but the habits were like sheep or goats. He used to eat and drink same whatever the sheep were being given to eat.The shepherd used to tame him with a small stick and never could retort. One day the shepherd took all the cattle to jungle. During the day they were drinking water in a pond. On the other side of the pond there were couple of lions. The cub saw them and then to himself. Again and again he repeatedly saw himself and the lions on the other side. He thought they look like me and rule the jungle. They don't fear of anyone where as I am here with sheep and goats who are totally different from me. They fear of every one and are tamed by a small stick. Then what I am doing here? I should have been with the lions and rule the jungle. He roared loudly and noticed that all the sheep and goats ran away. He jumped to the other side of the pond ran towards the lions. The cub was made to behave like sheep by the shepherd and till he came to know the fact that he is a lion, he remained like sheep, fearing every one on this earth. The moment he recognised himself, he came out of the shell and behaving in his natural way.

Above story reminded me of many incidences where we locked our self in a comfort zone and started behaving like the other colleagues. In such situation we would continue to be free from mental tension but never enjoy the freedom of jungle. Better we recognise ourselves and jump in the risky water for which we are made up. It is very tough to break the shell but believe me it gives great enjoyment to come out of the shell and live freely.

Today evening going to Jaipur to parents for couple of days and then would go to Bangalore for some office work. So I would be out of my own shell (Office) till 9th November.

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Personality Influence

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The Character, Nature, Habits and Behaviour all are influenced by some one whom we respect, love or hate, adore and befriend. The influence may be of parents, teacher, boss, colleagues, neighbour, friend, leader, politicians, actors, poets and many more other people living or dead. I have noticed many a times that some people get influenced very easily by the persons who come in close contact with them and mostly such people are either colleagues, neighbour, boss or teacher. It is good to be influenced provided it takes to higher levels. People get influenced and then start comparing them selves and family with others. Then fault finding starts and the pleasure of life vapourises. They forget their own identity and qualities. Many persons don't have anything but they boast of big achievements and try to prove every one else wrong or criticise. Such persons can influence easily with their show offs and talks. People get frustration and loose self confidence after contacting with them. Not only this many times those who have been influenced start following them blindly in all walks of the life irrespective to the fact whether it is right or wrong.

In my view we should learn from every one we are in touch or know but the influence should not be to the extent of loosing self confidence or change in behaviour. This can be rectified by periodical self analysis. We are made by the god and no one is same. There is no need to copy the others. If god has made us different, there is some reason then why to challenge that? Are not we best for our kids, parents, spouse and other family members?

When we have lot of work we tend to become lazy and that is what happening to me these days. Most of the time is just passing without any action and only planning. I can feel the guilt of myself in not putting the things in order. Somewhere in the mind, I am just allowing the things to move on their own. May be after next trip to Jaipur, the momentum of work would revive. Till then it is just killing the days.

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Friends

Again same promise to self and than violation of it immediately. It has been a long gap again of almost 17days. During last 17 days we celebrated Diwali, then went to holidays trip to Ujjain, Indore, Omkareshwar and Mandu. Later I also went to London between 24th to 29th Oct. on official trip. All the trips, vacations went exceedingly well. Omkareshwar and Mahakaleshwar areamongst lord Shiva's twelve Jyotirings and considered to be the holiest places of worship of lord Shiva. In addition to above two Jyotirings, I have visited to Somnath, Trayambakeshwar, Nageshwar and Kedarnath. Thus completed half mark. Mandu is a historical location where the main fort is like a ship, a huge Masjid and many small palaces surrounded by lush greenery. This is worth visiting place with lot of stories of Rani Roopmati, Jahangir and his soldiers. London is financial capital of the world and attracts every one engaged in this sector. This was my first visit and wish to continue such place more often.

I wanted to write a lot about some topics which were cropping in my mind but due to laziness(I admit this without giving false reason) , it could not be done. I promise my self again to be more regular on this now.

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Friends

A farmer was going to pilgrimage bare footed. He found a Dog from his village was also going to same place. He asked the dog, why you going to pilgrimage. He said I am going to wash out my sins and also want to become one of the few successful dogs in my community who have visited so far in their life. This would also help me in guiding the other dogs to venture into new world. The farmer said it would take about a month to reach to the pilgrimage place because he was going on foot only. The dog said that it would take him about a year to reach that destination. The farmer was surprised that how come so much time to a dog who can run faster. He asked the dog would you get tired or what is the other reason of reaching so late. The dog replied " No, I would not get tired but my colleagues, relatives, and all known and unknown dogs would pull my legs and stop me from going further and in that struggle it would take so much time. In all the passing villages I would be resisted from entering and exiting and hence in that struggle, I would be hurt, may remain hungry too and waste lot of time." The farmer understood the reasons and noticed that even we humans behave same way. During the struggle period or success path there would be lot of challenges from the relatives, nears and dear ones, peers, competitors and all who would try to pull our legs and try every thing to stop us. This is life and we should take it in positive way to move faster to the desired destination.

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Friends

Yesterday was Karwa Chouth. Ladies pray for long and healthy life for husbands. The keep fast and only in evening after seeing Moon they break it. They seek blessings of moon not only for the good of their husbands but also for giving the same relationship in next birth too. Only ladies can have such a commitment and devotion. Mostly ladies keep fasts on other occasion too and pray for the goodness of the family. What men do? In fact nothing except commenting on the social systems. In paper I saw one photo of two women meeting to their husbands in a jail in Punjab. Naturally they were praying for the good for their husbands. In many cases men don't treat the women fairly still they pray for their goodness. They keep fast so many times in a year, sacrifice a lot and other side men just take it for granted. Men should also pray for the goodness of their wives on a particular day. I don't know why this day was not made by we Hindus. We should do some thing in this direction may be with some amendments.

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Wealth Vs. Knowledge

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We Hindus worship many god and goddess every day. Mata Lakshmi is symbol of wealth and Mata Saraswati is for Knowledge. All of you must have noticed that a child starts life with blessings of Maa Saraswati and suddenly when he gets degree or any qualification he forgets her and joins the other side of Maa Lakshmi. During most of his life he remains towards the side of wealth and rarely takes side of knowledge. His identity also gets status as per the wealth size he possesses. His name, position, fame, character, personalty every thing reflects only and only the size of his wealth. I wonder why knowledge is not given due weight age as compared to wealth. We always hear the names of fortune 500 companies, wealthiest people, Rich and famous etc. Next to that is the list of beautiful women, handsome men, sexiest personalities and all. But never I heard about the list of most knowledgeable people or companies. Or the list of highly qualified professors or the list top educationist who produced highest number of successful people etc. etc.

Rather we notice that a person is often called by different names during his life time. During childhood I used to hear a story of a man named Parshuram. He was so poor that his parents could hardly manage both ends meet. No one used to respect him despite he was always first in the class. He got good degree but for some time he was searching job. He was called as Parshya. Gradually he got a nice job and started earning some thing, people started loving him and changed the name to Parshu. After some time he made some name and wealth and this led to change his name to Parshuram. But when he earned good wealth and status, people began calling him by the name Parashuramji even by the people of much older age. He did not give anything to the society and all these changes were just due to change in his wealth. After becoming Parshuramji he started doing some charity to the society and added another feature in the name of 'Seth or Saheb'. This is the miracle of Maa Lakshmi's side. Even in Lakshmiji's Aarti we get a line "Jis ghar tharo Vaaso vahi mai gunn aata, Kar na sake soi karle Mann nahi dhadkata'. I wish to ask all of you, would this be possible in case of knowledge. I doubt. Surprising na.

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Friends

Another day another game. It starts in the morning with wake up call. The mind starts working and plan for the day. What to wear, what to say, where to go, how to handle various issues and all....It is end number things which starts cropping up in the mind. It is not that the game we play is only in business life even in the social life too we play lot of games whole day and night. We talk about religion, food habits, ethics, culture and so many good issues but follow none. In fact we are ready to give fitting reply on any matter which can benefit us irrespective of the loss other people may suffer.

Life is a game which starts with our birth and have to be played till the last breath. Depends how good we play it. Those who take this as game and just play without thinking of the win or loss, play longer and those who get fear of losing game play for much shorter period. Only attitude decides the longevity and success of the game.

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Last post on the blog was on 18th September, i.e. about 13days back. Every time put something on blog, I promise my self to be regular in future. The promise is made and forgotten soon the post is over. Then I look at it every day and think for couple of minutes and scroll back to some other web pages. I convince myself for why I am not regular in writing on the blog but there is no real reason for such a long absentism except lack of focus on my part. We are busy but never so much that working hours are shot, we travel a lot but never continuously for such a long period. After 18th Sept. Navratri festival alongwith Dussehra was celebrated. Navratri in Gujarat is more important due to mass garba dances and pooja. The festive mood takes front seat in every sphere of life and suddenly the city awakes whole night. Then it ended with Dussehra when long Que can be noticed in the shops for Fafda Jalebi. Gujarat has a strong celebration culture irrespective to the caste, creed, rich, poor any thing. Every one immediately moulds into festive mood and also very fast revert backs to the work. The power of bouncing back is quite apparent here. People believe in moving further without sticking up in something irrelevant.

In school days we used to play the Ramleela as a game and boy who was fat or ugly used to be Ravan. Every one else was interested in becoming Ram only and rarely we got anyone to be Sita. Generally boys used to play this game at home. The Ravan used to get lot of beatings and had to pretend to die. Interesting part used to be of Kumbhkaran, Ravan's Brother for whom we used to bring some thing to eat and till his role was over no one could touch that sweet and other food items. But this Kumbhkaran never left anything for others to eat. He knew till the role is being played no one can object to him.

Even in professional life too there are many Kumbhkarans, who rarely allow others to eat some thing. Till the things are in their command they would ensure to suck every penny and only the leftovers are shared by others. No one pose as Ravan otherwise his survival would be challenged but who knows the reality. I dont mean that there are no Ram or good characters but mostly we come across with are Ravans. Ravan kidnapped sita but in professional life the assignments or the clients are Sita and they become victim. We all are playing Ramleela in real life too. Till not caught we are Ram and if caught then become Ravan. This is life and have to be lived like this only.

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Friends

People would come and go, friends would come and go, relatives would also come and go. Coming and going is the rule of this earth. Many people come in this world in poor state but they end up up as successful person. Many come with silver spoon in mouth but end up with frustration and disgraceful life. Most people come and go unnoticed in this world. What makes a person successful, failure, rich, poor, graceful or disgraceful? Who should be blamed or praised for all these? The person himself or the society or the country or the education or the friends or the surroundings? Money can not be the reason for all these because many poor people became rich and famous. Education also not the sole tool because most entrepreneurs are not much literate. Then what is the basic reasons for transformation of a person from one end to the other? I know these are the questions always crop up in our mind. In my view the surroundings, parents and society is largely responsible in giving shape to a person. That is why it is said that "getting birth in poor family is our destiny but dying as poor is our decision". Although attitude is the key to destiny of a person but it is also severly affected by the factors mentioned above.

Every day we come across lot of opportunites which we allow to go unnoticed. We meet many people but fail to look at the opportunities. In most of the cases the opportunities come in the form of dull, unnoticed packaging and that is the reason we fail to catch hold of them. Also it is very difficult to judge a person because the successful person would be very simple and humble which makes others difficult to understand him. But what to do , the world is like this only and we have to find the ways and means from such challenging situation.

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Past Memories

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Whenever you look to the past it is exciting experience, be it the history or album or the memory journey, you feel happy about the events took place and feel happy to see or remember that. Yesterday such old journey was remembered in JAP, our association of professionals. It is now 8 year old and a short film of the events took place in last years was shown. I remember it was post earthquake, my city was still under shock and there was nothing positive in business or social or political fronts. The faces in last eight years have changed a lot. Those with black hairs have grown to grey area now, those with grey have now lost most of the hairs. People with moustache have become clean shave now and kids with no moustache have grown quite old. I remember the year 2001 and 2002 were the worst years for Ahmedabad. People outside the state used to ask us many embarrassing questions and used to behave as if we are the conspirators of every thing. Other side business was almost nil. Yes self confidence with trust in god was there which kept us floating for next about three years. Present would go soon but the past would remain forever. If past is good it boosts the morale and inspires for the future but if past is not very good then also it inspires to change the strategy, amend business plans and also take corrective actions. Let us use the past memories as better opportunity.

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Self Respect

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A man full of frustration and fear ran to his friend for his advice. In early morning he rushed to the house of friend and said that he has lost every thing he had earned through out the life. The friend had just come out of puja sitting in drawing room. He consoled the friend and asked for a cup of tea, but the man was so shattered and frustrated that he could not stop from crying. After some time the things got cooled down and then the friend asked what has happened to him suddenly. The man said that he must have read today's news paper carrying false story about him. This has spoiled his image and social reputation. The friend said he did not read the news paper today so far. He said that half of the population of this town would never read newspaper as they can not afford it. Remaining half may not read all the pages and most of the people would read only the news of their interest. Now the story about you would be read by your friends and enemies. Those who are enemy are already not with you so it does not matter much and those who are true friends would not believe the story . Hence do not feel let down and nothing has been lost.

Friends this story indicates that we are over concerned about ourselves and create lot of tension. Instead we should respect our self without comparing with the neighbour. We are also part of the human race, god's own creation and full of qualities. Self respect is necessity, not a luxury.

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During childhood I used to hear a story that in a village a girl had seven brothers. She was loved by all too much but her parents had got expired so the brothers were taking care of her like an angel. Gradually the brothers got married and their wives became jealous of the sister in law. They were in business and had to travel a lot and once all of them had gone outstation for long time. All the seven wives thought this is right time to teach lesson to this sister and hence planned accordingly. The brothers used to treat her like princess and she never did any work at home. To teach her lesson the wives put her in servant quarter outside the house and used to get her work every thing they wish. She was kept half starve and even for some food put up many terms and conditions. One day she was asked to go in jungle and bring the hair of lion. Then to bring water from a well without rope, one told to bring the milk of lioness etc. etc. Like this all the seven wives gave her one or other hard work to do if she wants food. At home she used to do all the work for all members and even the animals of the house. In two weeks she was in very pity situation and was even unable to walk properly. Gradually time passed and the brothers came to the village. First thing they did was to enquire about their sister but they said she had gone to temple, then later said may be to her friends and all. By evening they could not find their lovely sister and then all of them became violent. Ultimately truth came that she is roaming to nearby villages and begging here and there. The brothers got their sister after lot of efforts and searching but she was totally broken and shocked.

This happens when you place some one very dear or invaluable to you with some one highly reliable. We place faith and some times repent on our actions. I agree such experience would be rare but this can result into great shock of the life. But anyway don't stop putting faith.

Also when you offer something beyond his/her expectations, the chances are that the offer would be either disrespected or doubted. There was a movie where a government clerk used to take bribe and the highest expectation was a good fish. One day some one offered him two fish and that created doubt in his mind that if this guy giving so much then what is the value of benefit he would be taking from me and hence not only refused to accept the bribe but also reprimanded him. Had he offered only one fish, he would have got his work done.

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After Janmashtami this time next day was Independence day and further rest day i.e. Sunday. Thus people enjoyed three days' holiday in one go. I went to Chennai, Mumbai, Bangalore and Tirupati in last 10 days.

An immediate family of four is so closely knit that even if a member goes out of this web, you feel a great vacuum. But kids have to shape their own career and hence go out of the family shell. Nikita is in B'lore and hence we all were there with her for couple of days and had also gone to Tirupati. This was a great time more of satisfaction that kids are managing everything on their own.

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Janmashtami

Today is Janmashtami. It is ashtami the day when Lord Krishna had taken birth. Lord Krishna is god and basically human avatar of lord Vishnu. As a human if we look into his life we would know lot about him. Lord krishna is generally visualised as enjoying life, dancing music and playing. And later giving updesh to Arjun and the whole world about Karma(action), Fal(result), universe, God etc. But he also taught to survive in this world. He was 8th son of Dev-Devki, had lost 6 brothers already, parents in jail since years, own mama was torturing like anything still he survived. He got the blame of Mahabharata war too, fought many wars and mainly with relatives, still he survived. He was with the side of truth always and that is the message he gave. It was the time the war between Kaurav and Pandavas was about to start. He was taking rest in a room and both Duryodhan and Yudhishthar came to him. Duryodhan was towards his feet andYudishthar near to his shoulder. He got awake, opened the eyes and first saw Duryodhan and then Yudhishthar. He asked Duryodhan what he wants from him for war i.e. himself or his army? Since Duryodhan was first seen by him so the right of first choice was with Duryodhan. Duryodhan thought instead of this one guy, if I ask for his entire army and ammunition, Pandavas would be easily defeated. So he chose Army of Krishna and then Yudishthar said I want you to be with me not your army. Ultimate results are known to every one, but the message is very loud and clear and it is "One true friend with knowledge is much better than army of lacs of people". This is the value of relationship and can never be equated with anything. A relation builds in years and takes moments to spoil. We should learn this thing and keep in mind for the entire life.

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Friends

How should be the vacations/holidays celebrated? August is the month of lot of happenings. This has Rakshabandhan, Independence day, Janmastami, Paryusan of Jains, Ganesh Chaturthi, etc. Due to sawan month, people do not shave, drink or eat non vegetarian food in many regions of the country. This is the month of vacations, holidays, religious sentiments, national integration, excitements, fun and so on. Every body enjoys the month in his own way. This month has become more happening due to ongoing threat of swine flu. This month also witnessed solar eclipse.

The vacations and holidays were given by the society for relieving the people from stress of hard work in farms but these days the vacations are used for getting stress. I observed many people on janmasthami play cards till late nights and even whole nights and that too for many days, play gamble games, etc. Not only that the stress level is further increases by use of alcohol, travelling etc. The holidays would pass bye and again we would be back to work. Most of the time , we overstretch the holidays by adding the pre & post days of holidays for travelling and when we return to work instead of freshness we are more stressed. Money is made by us and hence we should rule money not the money should rule us.

Though I am no one to advise about the use of vacations, but in my opinion some part of the vacations must be used relaxing the body, thinking, planning, socialising and reading. This may help in long term.

My best wishes for Janmashtamai and Independence day.

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Friends

Recently I had mentioned that the action is the key to success and later also shared with you that quick decisions are must. It means fast actions can be the result of quick decisions only. Today I wish to share some more thoughts about these two important factors.

1. Quick Decisions: What can be termed as quick decision? In my view the decision taken with some thoughts, some analysis and earlier than any one else could visualise is the quick decision. The feeling of quick decision is always warm and exciting. Though the decisions taken with speed may carry some risks but the habit of taking quick decisions would always pay in long term. On other side the decision taken after deep thinking, detailed analysis, fully cautious and full of intelligence will mostly not result into too fruitful. By the time decision is taken the steam in the issue goes out. Better we take risk and make habit of taking quick decisions. I am sure it would be

2. Fast Action: There is no existence of quick decisions in life if the action is not followed. The decisions become important only when actions are put into place. Actions can be slow and fast both. Fast decision would not only keep the momentum high but also brings the fruits early. This habit would automatically increase the time at our disposal.

I also wish to share that the opportunity to take decision comes from the soul of the world and it contains some soul or gas which vapours out soon. Thus to grab the opportunity quick decisions are must and more important is fast action.

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Quick Decisions

Whatever decisions we take in life for study, job, family, business, social issues, property buying etc. etc. depend on our attitude towards the world. Most of the time we noticed that hasty decisions cost dearly to us, but I believe no decision or late decision would be costlier in life. I noticed one peculiar thing about the successful(SF) and not so successful(NSF) persons. SF people have been fooled more times than NSF, SF have done more mistakes than NSF, SF have put in more efforts than NSF, SF have gone through more pains than NSF, SF are less analytical than NSF, SF cried more than NSF, Number of decisions went wrong for SF are much more than NSF and above all SF have taken more risks than NSF. Despite all this SF continued their efforts with full focus and got success. In such cases I found that taking decision and sticking to it is more important than analysing the decision and keeping pending to it. Once the moment of decision comes and we Delay it for any reason, the value of the decision fades away and gradually we convince our self that not taking decision was good idea. We avoided the risk that way but the fact is that we blocked our path to success also. So I would suggest fast decision with immediate action can be a good option in life.

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Friends

What should be the way to success. I think many a times and arrive to the conclusion that thinking is very important but it is of no use until put into action. Many people around us who are much younger to me are more successful and I noticed that the only difference between them and me is action.I may have thought the same thing but the action by them was more fast, focused and consistent. This is where they got edge on me. I am not comparing the persons with me but just comparing the reasons and I noticed following comparison:

A. They

1. Attitude: Positive

2. Knowledge: Good

3. Approach: Proactive

4. Positioning: Well placed to succeed

5. Action : Fast and Consistent

6. Will Power : Strong and Firm

B. Me

1. Attitude: Positive

2. Knowledge : Good

3. Approach : Proactive

4. Positioning: Well placed but not better

5. Action : Slow and mostly thinking to take or not

6. Will Power : Good but affected by more analysis & over cautious approach

I believe the only factor I lacked was the speed in action and the rest were similar.

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Friends

Again a gap of 15 days in writing over this dash board. Life goes on with the time and nothing stops in life. Earth can not stop circling round the sun and hence nothing can be put to halt. We meet, communicate with many people every day. Some we forget, some we remember but in due course forget them, some remain in touch and some become close friends. Very few remain in touch for long. This process goes on depending on the interactions and opportunities.

We also know many celebrities and try to simulate them, some become our ideal and we try to follow their principles and strategies. Problem with we "mango people (aam aadmi)" is that we hardly know about them and never reach to them to understand more and more about such people. Rajmata Gayatridevi of Jaipur has moved to heaven after 90 years on this earth. I had the opportunity to see her couple of times. In fact Jaipur would never forget this legend lady for her contribution to this estate. But the time would move on nothing stops and honestly should not too. Jane wala chala jata hai bas uski yaaden rah jati hai.

With the passage of time we grow and become older, irrespective of the fact whether we become more intelligent or not, but the image we build is such that we are more intelligent than younger ones. Had it been the case, no younger one would be the richest people in this world. Experience and knowledge are very important factors for success but not the only factors. There are so many other ingredients needs for success and one of the most important is attitude. Unfortunately very less is taught about this factor and that is the reason very few become successful in life.

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Mistakes: Blessings of God

Friends

We all make lot of mistakes, repent later and also feel embarrass about the silliness of doing such mistakes. In most of the cases we also notice at what point we did make mistakes and also the indications which were coming to us before happening of mistakes. God cautions us but we don't care and go ahead, than mistakes happen and we curse to god. But what god can do, he cant come directly and hence sends signals but we fail to understand his language. Both are helpless but there are two good learning's from these:

1. A collection of mistakes becomes experience and ultimately the reason for success;

2. We can not go back and correct bad beginning or the mistakes of past but god allows us to make successful ending.

Infact, the mistakes are blessings of god which prepare us for success. Every successful person has done more mistakes than the failure one and hence if we are surviving with more and more mistakes, let us take it as blessings of god and move further. Let us feel proud of the mistkes we made and just try to laugh on those mistakes.

Looking in the past of my life and career I notice lot of mistakes, I did, could have been avoided but due to various reasons, could not resist from doing the same. Despite all the mistakes, I also feel there is some invisible power / force which stands with us and keep us standing too. Is this power called God or the intuition we get before doing the mistake is God or both are faces of God? I don't have answer of this but only can feel so. What you think?

Meanwhile, Recently finished "The world's greatest comebacks by Robert A. Schuller, son of renowned writer Robert H. Schuller". It is good book and reminds about various people who faced lot of challenges and bounced back with full strength.

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The Alchemist

Friends

Recently finished this wonderful book "The Alchemist-Paulo Coelho". The alchemist means a person who can turn any metal into gold and lives for more than 300 yrs. It is story about a boy, who is basically a shepherd but a big dreamer too . To make his dream true , he pass through lot of hardship and challenges but nothing stops him from moving further. The book tries to point out that your dream treasure may be near to you but the route may take you to long journey full of hardship, risks and challenges. The book mentions many great quotes along with the story like:

1. The greatest lie in the world is "that at a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what is happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate".

2. Every one knows at their young age what their destiny is and at this point every thing is clear and possible. At young age they don't afraid to dream and yearn for everything they would like to see happen to them in their lives. But, as time passes, a mysterious force begins to convince them that it will be impossible to realize their destiny.

3. Everything on the earth is being continuously transformed, because the earth is alive and it has a soul. We are part of that soul but we rarely recognize that it is working for us.

4. The soul of the world governs all things and when you want something with all your heart, that is when you are closest to the soul of the world. It is always a positive force.

The dreams can be made true if we really wish from the heart and put in everything we have. The book makes the boy to go to desert and then pyramids to search the treasure and ultimately bring backs to the original place from where he started to get the treasure. Meaning that we may be sitting already on treasure but never visualised.

We all know that the grass is greener on the other side or in hindi we say "Dusre ki thali mai sabko ghee najar aata hai". If it is so then some one else is feeling that our side grass is more greener and hence we only have to realise that. Once we are sure of our self and value our position, rest would be only focused efforts. When we would connect with the soul of the world the dreams would automatically become true.

Cheers.

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Vision Development

Friends
i. In 1971 we had shifted to Jaipur from Tonk (Rajasthan). My father was not satisfied with the practice as Lawyer in Tonk and had got a job in Government of Rajasthan. In those days he was drawing a salary of Rs. 400/- per month and dependents were about Ten(including cousins). It is a matter of great surprise for me today to think about a family of ten living on the monthly earning of Rs. 500/-. He took me on his bicycle to the vast campus of Rajasthan University couple of times. He did not say anything just showed me hostels, colleges, main buildings and all. Probably he wanted to develop vision in me about higher education, professionalism and all. It was his style of developing vision in me otherwise what else can be a purpose to take a boy of 10 yrs to the university campus that too on 10 kms away from home . Later when I passed B.Com. (Hons.), I ranked 6th in the university in my subject.
ii. After graduation I used to visit the newly developed industrial area of Jaipur (VKIA) bout 20 kms. on cycle or by bus. The purpose was just to see the industries and read the names of various entities. While passing through them, I used to get excited about entrepreneurship. This vision put me into consultancy for corporates.

Above two incidences are not to boast about my self, I just want to share with all of you that we should develop vision in kids at very early stages. We should take them to university campuses, Industries, professional offices, Banks etc so they can dream about them. This is very important for parents if they wish their kids to be successful in life. We should also arrange visit for them to various successful personalities. Believe me it does not cost much and results in good help for their vision development.
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1st July

Friends

1st July has special place in most of we people's life. Remember when as students, this day used to bring promotion for us to new class. Same teachers and School but still we used to feel senior. Lot of excitement and anxiety for higher class as if more responsibility on our heads. In the process we left some old friends and make new ones who become more closer during the year. Many of the colleagues who were dumb in previous years would become more intelligent and smarter whereas this elevation would put many intelligent colleagues towards dumbness. I remember the year 1977 July when I was elevated to Eleventh class and this promotion allowed us to wear Trousers in school instead of Nicker. This is the day when we used to hear the cries of small kids resisting going to school. This is the day when the teachers introduce themseves, show the vision for the whole year and promise to guide through oout the year for next elevation.

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It was 8th February 1991 evening, after long gap I earned some fees from a client and immediately thereafter got a call that Shashi is not feeling well and had to be rushed to hospital. Then next day morning 9th feb we were blessed with Nikita. Kids grew and suddenly grown to such extent that now they need to be away from parents for higher studies. She has moved to Bangalore for higher studies and it was really very emotional week for me and family to live without Nikita. I found her more confident and stronger than me in all senses. It is beyond my imagination that she is managing every thing on her own that too in unknown city and college. Time moves very fast and you feel the impact suddenly. Suddenly I am reminded that it is already 18 years since she arrived on this planet where as I was treating her as the same child . God gives us beautiful gifts, allow us to bond with them and suddenly puts on test to live without such wonderful gifts. It would be a different experience of life watching the kids grow on their own.

My best wishes would always be there for her great career ahead.

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Relationship and Internet

Friends

I like to discuss about another hot topic of present days i.e. Relationship build through Internet. It is general perception and true too to some extent that the relationship based on Internet is very short term, full of selfishness, wrong details and more of instant happiness. This back ground of relationship built through internet reflects on the acceptance in society of such relation. Rarely one come across to a transparent and pure relationship through internet. May be after ten years this would be major source of relationship building but at present it carries the bad stigma. It would take long time to wash out such stigma. Another perception about the internet is that it is useless rather harmful tool of wasting time and building wrong relation building. Although internet is widely used for developing business relationships but as far as social relationship is concerned, it is still far behind. Despite the fact that internet has helped many people to find the good business relationship, life partners, job etc., it is still treated as taboo as far as friendship is concerned.

I feel that if internet is used in proper manner and cautiously it is full of good people who can be worth friendship. But the route to find such persons is very long and one may or may not end up with his search. Since internet is also used by matured people who are from good families and they also need honest friends, there is always good possibility of good interaction. However the stigma would always remain that such relations are not created by birth or social events and hence may continue to find the resistance from the society. May be in coming decades the stigma would be washed out and this source of relation building would be accepted at par with other ways of building relationship.

What you say?

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".....And I killed My Rabbit-II"

Friends

Do you remember the story ".....And I killed my Rabbit". This was mentioned by me in the post dated 19th August, 2008. Today is time again to disclose it further. Rabbit is the name of friendship who is always trapped in various situation and then who so ever traps it, kills it. Fortunately Rabbit is immortal and can not be killed.

In fact Peter is not smart enough to keep the Rabbit safe despite the best guidance and support from Vera and that causes lot of hardship to Vera and Rabbit without their fault. He has been groomed through out the life under the aura of honesty, integrity and truthfulness. He does not know how to hide, what to hide and what should be disclosed. He simply followed one principle of transparency and that became the root cause of his problems. Let me give you some detailed back ground of this story. Peter and Swete with two lovely daughters named Neve and Hillaria are one family. Other side Vera and Dickson too have two handsome kids Merill and Prince. So in this story 8 people are involved and directly concerned. Both are happy and well to do families full of joy and enjoyment. On one side Peter's wife Swete is quite possessive of peter and hence hates Vera and Rabbit. Whereas Dickson is a matured guy and respects the Rabbit. He knows about the Peter-Vera relations. He rather appreciates the purity and transparency of this relationship but bit shy too to move further. Swete is not in position to understand the sentiments attached to Rabbit. She fears of her family and whenever sees the Rabbit alone kills it. Of late the impact of Rabbit has started percolating down to Neve , Hillaria, Merrill and Prince. Every one loves Rabbit but feels helpless. They are too premature to understand the Rabbit. For the Rabbit the truth and honesty of Peter has become curse instead of blessing. In fact Peter does not know how to hide, what to hide and what to disclose and thus time and again he puts the Rabbit on risk. It happens quite often that except Peter and Vera every one curses Rabbit for disturbance and then tries to kill whenever chance comes. Peter the poor fellow succumbs to the pressure all the time and tries to distant himself from Rabbit, leaving it in the cruel hands. The fact remains that Peter and Vera are brother-Sister and wish to keep that relationship. So the Rabbit is combination of friendship converted to bro-sis relation.

Another aspect of this story is that Peter could not give anything to Vera out of this friendship except the sad moments very often. She did not enjoy the relation and always gave chance to peter to handle the situation properly. It is the greatness of Vera to accommodate Peter always despite lot of abuses and curses from Swete. She even tries to console herself without knoledge of Dickson. She virtually hides her sorrow from outside world fearing that this world would then start advising her too to kill the Rabbit. She always cures the Rabbit and again handover to Peter. But what poor Peter could give her except tears every now and then. The fact of life is "You Can give only what you have" and hence Peter could give that only. Peter was always advised to dump Vera and Rabbit but no one thought of the situation of Peter and Vera. They built the relationship after so much efforts and no one look to the other side of the story. But it was not the fault of others because they are normal guys and could see whatever normal eyes can see. Whatever happens, it is the Rabbit, Peter and Vera who suffer most and many a times Peter threw away the Rabbit out of fear and frustration, but Rabbit is there inside his heart and can not be wiped out. Peter cries whenever Rabbit is killed, Vera too cries and then both take the mortals of Rabbit, pray to God and with the blessings of God Rabbit gets alive. Probably God is testing the Peter Vera relation.

In my view Peter should know how to handle this world. The foolishness of peter causes the damage to Rabbit and hurts Vera. May be Vera repents the moment she became friend of Peter and gave birth to Rabbit. In this world integrity, faith, truth and honesty are important but also there exists smartness, cunningness, lies, acting etc. The world needs all otherwise the bad things would have become extinct by now. Peter should understand that truth is good but lie also is also very important so many times. Astrologers know the future but never tell the truth just for the benefit of the concerned person. Every time truth and honesty don't work. Rather they are very harmful for the family and personal life. Initially I used to think that Truth, Honesty and Integrity are the only good words in life but after reading this story I need to change my views that many a times telling lies or hiding some thing are good for every one. The world would never understand the Rabbit and continue to kill as and when they get the chance. This is not the end of story and I would disclose more about the story soon.

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Relationship

Dear Friends

What can be the value of a relation? Is there any scale in this world which can value a relation in terms of money or any other methodology? Many relations in life bear no value for a long period and suddenly become quite important and precious. Where as many relations go other way i.e. quite precious initially and suddenly become a obstacles. Why it happens? Is it the situation or the purpose or the challenges faced by such relation. Every relation faces challenges and has to come clean from the tests. No relation can be termed permanently as big or small, precious or useless, close or distant, real or cousin, etc. Till any relation involves a human being, it is of equal importance. It is only the time and situation which decides the importance of a relation for the present otherwise in future all the relations are equally important and respectable. I also noticed that almost all the relations are perceived differently by different persons. A relation may be useless for some but may be highly precious for the other. It seems the relationships are totally guided by the emotions and attitudes. The key to a successful relationship is emotional attachment and mutual respect.

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Friends

Recently finished the book named "OUTLIERS, The Story of Success" by Malcolm Gladwell. It is an unique book in the sense that the assumptions, the analysis for the successful people is totally from different angles. Though this over focus on certain points but still it is worth reading. The book points to the fact that there is some more to a success then whatever is talked about. The creation of opportunity is one which is very crucial too. Then the history of a person, his forefathers, cultural history, their activities also equally important in shaping a successful career. It is really important to know about the past history of a person and past means not 100 yrs only but about 500 yrs back history too. As per the writer all these factors shape a persons' personality. To become an Outlier not only you need to work hard and develop excellence but also lucky enough to find the right opportunity. The book analyses in depth about many outliers and proves the point effectively.

I had been travelling extensively since last 15 days due to various social and professional reasons. Got another book to support me . Let me finish it so I can share my views. I would also request you all to suggest me good books to read. There is lot to talk about various issues mainly related with career, relationship, family, society and all which in next few days shall find the space on this blog.

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Friends

In mid nineties and till about 20 years back, the general perception was that a person with more kids is better placed than those who have few kids. The reputation of a person with many sons was highest in the society. The Second perception was that a person with more daughters or all daughters and no son is a big failure. The society used to treat such persons poorly and they themselves used to feel very weak in every sense. They did not have any important say in the business, society, family issues or any other matter. These two perceptions forced the people of immediate past generation to have more children and at least one son. In fact these are some of the social reasons for sudden jump in Indian population in past. Of course now this is changed drastically. I noticed several times that a person with only daughters was always under pressure to adopt some one as son irrespective of his eligibility. Mainly the purpose was to force such parents to make themselves further poor by giving the properties to such person. Another thing I noticed about such parents was lack of self confidence in them while dealings with any issue or even building properties and all. The feeling they used to have was that since they don't have son, who would need the properties. Most of the cases they either ended with no material properties or even if they had , the horizontal generations taking away from the daughters. The daughters were always groomed as outsiders and hence no interference in the safe guarding the parents. On the other side parents with many son used to feel elevated in every sense of life. They used to feel that whatever decision they take is the best for family and society. Their stature in society was at the top irrespective of other parameters. Such persons were the ultimate decision makers for the caste, family, and society as a whole. I noticed arrogance in attitude and over confidence in such people. They did not care for time and money as they did not have daughters and as per them the sons were minting machines. Such people mostly ended with depression due to failure of most of the family members in career, family disputes and ultimately shattering of their dreams etc.

The situation is fast changing but still in many parts of the country people give more respect to the parents who have Son then those with only daughters. Those with no issue are treated more differently. I believe a person should be judged from his achievements and attitudes and not on the basis of the achievements beyond his control.

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Friends

I was out of Ahmedabad for almost 5 days. My mother in law aged 78 yrs has expired on 25th May, 09 after a short period of illness. May god place the soul in peace and rest. She was a very bold lady grew from a small village and managed the family of 7 children meticulously in a very limited source of income. It is very rare to find such people around the world who can live with self respect and pride through out the life.

After elections, the process of forming new government is now over and wish that this would take the country to new heights. But it is equally painful to have high expectations from the politicians. Since the new government is more stable in numbers, it seems they would at least have no disturbances from the allies.

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Mumbai-Land of Opportunities

Friends

This evening I am in mumbai because my daughter is appearing for law entrance exam tomorrow being conducted by one bangalore based university. She is putting all out efforts to get admission in some good law university. Hope she would be able to get . Kids plan out a lot for shaping career, do lot of hard work in study and pass through lot of hurdles and challenges. Huge efforts are put in by the students to get admission in any good stream and college. But that is not the end, in fact it is beginning of the whole new lot of challenges. Once they get admission in the college then the challenges would be towards getting good ranks and preparing various projects. Then challenges would be get desired placement and so on. Every day new challenges would come in their way and then they would think if this hurdle crossed, no challenge would be in place, but does it happens?

Mumbai is the land of opportunity with about 17 million people earning their livelihood . Every day hundreds of people come here , search the job and try to build career. I remember, the year 1985 (probably 1st July) when I first came to mumbai. I came here from jaipur by train named frontier mail, these days, I don't know what it is called. In those days I was waiting for CA result and when at about 6am landed at Borivali station, it was a feeling of achievement. Lot of local trains shunting, hand lorries from here and there, and suddenly many people jumping into the train. They were struggling to go inside the train even before it stopped. This kind of human behaviour was really amusing. Probably they would be thinking that getting seat is only challenge . Other side I was thinking if I get the job here, life would be smooth, though I got it but that was rather beginning of the challenges.

My relation with Mumbai is like flirting. I came here stayed for some time and went back. Came second time but again had to run back with bad health. Now since last 15 years , I am coming to this wonderful city very often but rarely stay in night. This city has given me a lot professionally and as is said about this city that it never keeps debt of any one. It repays back with much more sooner or later. I am highly obliged with this city.

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Success: Only 10000 Hrs. Away

Friends

Recently I read an article in a book which analysed successful people in depth. The writer mentioned that there is no short cut to success and only shortest route is hard work. The important and surprising analysis he mentioned was that behind the success of every person two major factors worked:

1. An opportunity came in their way and they en cashed it. Unseen forces and circumstances offered them an opportunity.

2. Each and every body put lot of hard work to excel in their fields. He analysed their workings and found that minimum 10000 hrs were sincerely invested by them before tasting the success.

It means that to excel in any field we need to put in minimum 10000 hrs before getting success. It may sound crazy but this is fact. The author analysed the success stories of more than 75 highly successful people around the world.

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Compulsions & Advice

Friends

Compulsions of following the rules, terms and conditions, systems. Should we or should not we? It is always a question in mind what to do about the compulsions in day to day life. Compulsion and discipline both are synonym with each other to some extent. We are bound by the boundaries set by us, by society and it is important too. Any violation in discipline would damage the social system set by us. Compulsion also puts pressure on us to perform the best, dangerous comparison amongst kids and peer ones. In life we are required to follow many things without understanding the reasons. Just do because every one else is doing that. Don't jump to untested waters, don't take risk in life, go slow, save money, focus on saving or reducing expenses and not on increasing income, follow the elders, listen to them, don't argue with them, do whatever they suggest, go where they wish u should, talk whom they feel a better person, make friends whom they feel is better person, listen this music not that, walk like this, wear this, read this so on.... Even we get resistance in venturing any business if the family is not into that. The list of compulsions is infinite and as a social animal every one follows them. It is presented as discipline and edified strongly. Every thing is feed ed in our mind, our culture, religion, caste, creed, regionalism and so on. We are tuned to believe that we are best amongst all human beings and every one else is lower than us mainly because of his religion, caste or creed. We tune our mind to judge a person from his region, religion, caste etc. Those who defy the compulsions give the world new ideas, new comforts, new religion, new culture, new vision. Those who follow these compulsions, so called discipline, only maintain the status quo. Those who try to move out of the compulsions set by the society are always first discarded, put to severe tests before they emerge hero or icon.

Another issue is the seeking advice. In most of the cases, it is noticed that people get advice from those who don't have it. Our neighbour is the best advisor for anything happening in the world. You got sick and we would knock the door of every one except doctor. You want to become pilot but except pilot every one else would guide us how to do that or whether to do or not. What is good or what is bad for us is always guided by those who themselves are not into that field. Which business is doing well these days, and which are not. Every body would give us analysis at macro and micro level. Unfortunately none of them would be in this field.

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37500 Hrs. Only

Friends

An human generally lives in present days for about 80 years. It seems a good long period but just analyse and then let me know how big it is:

80 years are only 29200 days or 7 lacs hours. Out of these first 25 yrs and last 10 yrs a person does not earn. Hence only 16425 days or less than 4 lac hours. In this period we struggle , settle, marry, perform social responsibilities and so on... We earn, save for various situations and all. Many days are wasted towards holidays, social functions, illness and so on.... Believe me we don't have more than 5000 days (not nights even) to do anything constructive and for betterment of our self, family and society. I would also like to mention here that for most of the readers of this blog more than 25% of this time is gone already. On an average we don't have more than 3750 days or 90000 hrs. With in this period we would sleep, travel and all. Even if we don't consider holidays, leave etc; and only consider the working of 10 hrs per day it is only 37500 hrs. Where is the time for fight, revenge, zealousness, cheating, hurting etc. because first you do these things and then repent and then compromise and all. Better not to do such things.

Nothing remains to leave for tomorrow. That is why it is said very rightly "Kaal kare so aaj kar, aaj kare so abh, pal mai pralay hoyegi bhahuri karego kab."

In my view 37500 hrs is nothing friends, don't waste, it is very very precious.

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