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In mid nineties and till about 20 years back, the general perception was that a person with more kids is better placed than those who have few kids. The reputation of a person with many sons was highest in the society. The Second perception was that a person with more daughters or all daughters and no son is a big failure. The society used to treat such persons poorly and they themselves used to feel very weak in every sense. They did not have any important say in the business, society, family issues or any other matter. These two perceptions forced the people of immediate past generation to have more children and at least one son. In fact these are some of the social reasons for sudden jump in Indian population in past. Of course now this is changed drastically. I noticed several times that a person with only daughters was always under pressure to adopt some one as son irrespective of his eligibility. Mainly the purpose was to force such parents to make themselves further poor by giving the properties to such person. Another thing I noticed about such parents was lack of self confidence in them while dealings with any issue or even building properties and all. The feeling they used to have was that since they don't have son, who would need the properties. Most of the cases they either ended with no material properties or even if they had , the horizontal generations taking away from the daughters. The daughters were always groomed as outsiders and hence no interference in the safe guarding the parents. On the other side parents with many son used to feel elevated in every sense of life. They used to feel that whatever decision they take is the best for family and society. Their stature in society was at the top irrespective of other parameters. Such persons were the ultimate decision makers for the caste, family, and society as a whole. I noticed arrogance in attitude and over confidence in such people. They did not care for time and money as they did not have daughters and as per them the sons were minting machines. Such people mostly ended with depression due to failure of most of the family members in career, family disputes and ultimately shattering of their dreams etc.
The situation is fast changing but still in many parts of the country people give more respect to the parents who have Son then those with only daughters. Those with no issue are treated more differently. I believe a person should be judged from his achievements and attitudes and not on the basis of the achievements beyond his control.
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It was very sorry to hear about ur mom in law..ya let the soul rest in peace..Can understand the demise of elders as have faced myself when my father left us..But one cant help it..it is nature who decides everything...n we cannot change the circumstances..
From this post which i read now one can c tht females r more strong n r capable of doing anything..so why is the world not proud of them n many of them r just killing the new born females..I think females should have the same status wht man has..A female is more sensitive n i have seen many families where they r proud of their daughters..as they stand by them till the end of life n no lesser then the sons..n daughters care more of their parents..they r loveable, sensitve, caring...etc..i dont say tht males r not..but females r more..so why not females get the same respect n place as males get..I have 2 sons but i always feel tht i am incomplete without a daughter..so i think ppl should change their perception..many of them have done..but still there r few conservative families who still run after a son..but being a female i think there is no difference whether u have a son or a daughter..both should be equally treated..n parents should feel proud to have daughters as they equally make the parents proud in each n every field whether be it education...or work..or any other field...n the parents having daughters r equally strong n have the same status now in this world.
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