CPJain: Frienship: Few Questions

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Frienship: Few Questions

Dear Friends

What kind of friend one should have and how we improve ourselves to become a good friend?How does one should value each other ?

Does a friendship develops with only informal ,casual approach or it nurtures with the determination of sustained relationship?

What is it that brings two people together? Is it a destiny or just coincidences?

What a friend needs only association or a companionship that remains with us almost perpetually?

Does the companionship bring a presence of joy and fresh thought in our life Or is it done to bring fresh ideas?

Should a friendship be only demonstrative enough to gather acclaim or it is silent and reserved, yet deep enough to be unfathomed?

How and why a person who you start with just knowing develops into a friend, then good friend and ultimately best friend?

Should one nurture such friendship further and if so then how?

Who is more important for us a friend or family? Who supersedes whom and who has to sacrifice more?

Do we loose frnds or is it just myth?

How a friend sitting outside of the family screen still remains equally important and powerful? How he/she sustains all the challenges and still remains forever?

Is it right that it takes years to make a friend as your best friend but a moment is enough to spoil the whole relationship? If so then what kind of friendship it is which cant stand a momentary turmoils?
Do you have any answers to the above questions? I hope you would definitely share the answers.

cpjain

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Anonymous said...: oops, so many questions at a time. Hope all is well with u? Well would surely put forward my views which according to me r right, may be it may not satisfy everyone. Friendship according to me is a vast subject n debatable topic. There r many types of friendships..like personal friends, family friends, business friends, etc..Well one should have all types of friends,but then u have tobe dedicated to the friendship, n not just for the namesake. U should be ready to share the good n the bad moments with ur friends. When ever ur friend needs u, u should be standing on his/her side, irrespective of ur tight schedules or any other consequences. Friendship has to be nurtured for the life long. Friendship starts with casual approach but strengthens with time n reaches to the depth depending on the basic facts like loyalty, truth, sincerity, care, affection...According to me it is destiny tht brings 2 ppl together coincidentally. Different types of friendship brings different things in ur life like joy, freshness, understanding, changes ur thinkings, behaviour, attitude....Friendship develops from both the sides due to same views, same perception of life, same likings, power of understanding n many such things. There r very few persons who get a true friend in such a short span of life, n yes one should nurture tht friendship. It depends on tht particular individual how he wants to nuture tht friendship, as he/ she better knows his/her friend n surroundings. U cannot make a choice between a friend n a family. Family is one who has supported u life long in ups n down, so is the friendship too..but ur responsibilities r for both. none of the two supercedes the other..U have to balance both in ur life n give equal weightage n importance to both. The best way is make ur family ur friend n ur friends ur family. It is said tht it takes long to make a friend but a sec to break tht friendship, but then tht friendship was not true as it could not withstand the turmoils. Friendship is silent n very firm , it cannot make a loud noise nor break with any kind of turmoil, rather it becomes stronger n stronger with such attacks. I would like to add some quotes on friendship....Friendship is not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything.
A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down......................... Since there is nothing so well worth having as friends, never lose a chance to make them.
Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is a slow ripening fruit.................. Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them?Aristotle:
What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies.
There r thousands of quotes for friendship, n lot can be said n as i earlier said it is a debatable topic...so its better lets hear some more views too.; March 12, 2009 at 3:54 PM

Books I read recently:

1. Outliers-Malcolm Gladwell

2. How I raised my self from failure to Success-Frank Bettger

3. The High Performance Entrepreneur-Subroto Bagchi

4. Go Kiss the World-Subroto Bagchi

5. The Magic of Thinking Big-David J. Schwartz

6. Ziglar on Selling- Zig Ziglar

7. You Can Win- Shiv Khera

8. India 2020- APJ Abdul Kalam

9. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People- Stephen R. Kovey

10. The Alchemist- Paulo Corlho

11. I bought the Monk's Ferari- Ravi Subramanian

12. Who Moved my Cheese? - Dr. Spencer Johnson

13. How to Think like a Millionaire- Charles Albert Poissant

14. Success is never ending Failure is never Final- Robert H. Schuller

15. Think and Grow Rich- Napoleon Hill

16. The Power of positive thinking- Norman Vincent Peale

17. My Country My Life- L.K. Advani

18. The World's Greatest Comebacks- Robert A. Schuller

19. The Secret- Rhonda Byrne

20. Jonathan Livingstone Seagull- Richard Bach

21. Be an extraordinary person in an ordinary world-Robert H. Schuller

22. The ten commandments for business failure- Donals Keugh

23. Tough time never lasts but tough people do

24. You Inc.

25. The last lecure- Randy Pausch

26. Rich Dad Poor Dad- Robert Kiyosaki

27. The Winner Stands Alone-Paulo Coelho

28. Believe in the God Who believes in you-Robert Schuller

29. The Professional-Subroto Bagchi

30. Chanakya Neeti-Vishwamitra Sharma

31. Stay Hungry Stay Foolish-Rashmi Bansal

32. The Ultimate Life- Jim Stovall

33. The Five Dysfunction of a Team- Patrick Lencioni

34. How Starbucks Saved My Life-Michael Gill

35. The Tipping Point-Malcolm Gladwell

36. Blue Ocean Strtategy-W. Chan Kim & Renee Mauborgne

37. Brida- Paulo Coelho

38. India Unbound-Gurcharan Das

39. Connect the Dots- Rashmi Bansal

40. Bachhan Madhushala - Dr. Harivanshrai Bachhan

41. The Difficulty of Being Good-Gurcharan das

42. "Screw It, Let's Do it"-Richard Branson

43. " You Can't Predict a Hero"- Joseph J. Grano Jr.

44. "Mike Bloomberg, Money, Power, Politics"-Joyce Purnick

45. "Blink" - Malcolm Gladwell

46. " I have a Dream"- Rashmi Bansal

47. "Does He know a mother's heart?"-Arun Shourie

48. "Yes or No-Guide to better Decisions"- Spencer Johnson

49. "Will Power" Rediscovering Our Greatest Strength-Roy F. Baumeister & John Tierney

50. Getting Things Done-David Allen

51. The Law of the Garbage Truck-David J. Pollay

52. Insanely Simple-Ken Segall

53. The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck-Mark Manson

Quotes

1.Do not fight with the Pig, otherwise both of you would become dirty and unfortunately Pig would enjoy it.
2.Comfort with postponed gratification is critical requirement of entrepreneurship-Subroto Bagchi.
3. Behind any high performance entrepreneurship are invariably two things- a great idea that leads to a family of ideas and solid implementation- Subroto Bagchi
4. You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great- Zig Ziglar
5. We always overestimate the change that will occur in the next 2 years and underestimate the change that will occur in next 10 years. Dont let yourself to be lulled into inaction-Bill Gates
6. The harder you work, the more lucky you get- Thomas Jefferson
7. If you light a light for somebody, it will also brighten your path- Buddhist Proverb
8. If you think you are too small to make a difference, try spending a night in a closed room with a solitary mosquito.
9. Whatever the Mind of a Man can Conceive and Believe, it Can Achieve-Napoleon Hill
10. Both Poverty and Riches are the Offspring of Thought-Napoleon Hill
11. Every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equivalent or a greater Benefit-Napoleon Hill
12. Success reuires no Explanations, Failure permits no Alibis- Napoleon Hill
13. The Ladder of Success is never crowded at the Top- Napoleon Hill
14. ".... The brick walls are there to stop the prople who dont want it badly enough. They are there to stop the other people" -Randy Pausch
15. " It's never a good idea to wait to do anything; given the uncertainty of life, just get going." - Warren Buffet
16. Road to Success is always under construction- Annonymous
17. A mind is like a parachute: it only functions when it is open-Annonymous
18. Everyone who shits on you is not necessarily your enemy, Everyone who gets you out of shit is not necessarily your friend and, if you are warm and happy in a pile of shit, Keep Your MouthShut.
19. “Two thoughts that decide your attitude in life - one, what you think of yourself when you do not have everything and two, what you think of others when you have everything”.
20. “There are two ways to attain the number one position - one, do it more than anyone else and two, do it first and before anyone else does it.”
21. “It is hard to wait for something you know might never happen - but, its even harder to give it up when you know its that very thing you wanted”
22. “To ask for respect is like begging for it ! Instead if you keep giving respect to everyone, they will automatically give respect to you”
23. “Love yourself. Flirt with your understanding. Romance with dreams. Get engaged with simplicity. Marry genuineness. Divorce the ego. That is a good life !”
24. “Words are under your control until you speak them; but you come under their control once you have spoken them.”
25. “The winds and waves are always on the side of the ablest navigator.”
26. “The road to fulfilment is never a straight line; learn to navigate the twists and turns and you will find something of value in every result.”
27. “Achievers never expose themselves. But their achievements expose them.”
28. “When God drops needles and pins along your path in life, do not avoid them. Collect them. They were designed to teach you to be stronger.”
29. “If you find the whole world against you and you are alone, what will you do? Just turn around and you will become a leader of the whole world.”
30. “Never design your character like a garden where any one can walk. Design it like the sky where everyone aspires to reach. Aim high. Reach high.”
31. “You give little when you give of your possessions. You truly give when you give of yourself.”
32. “Never criticize in anger but criticize constructively.”
33. “The winds blow strongest against those who stand tallest”
34. “Pray as if everything depends on God. Work as if everything depends on you.”
35. “Don’t place your mistakes on your head, their weight may crush you. Instead place them under your feet and use them as a platform to view your horizon.”
36. “Don’t be afraid to take a big step when required; you can’t cross a chasm in two small steps.”
37. “If people around you are trying to pull you down be PROUD about it ! It only means one thing.. You are above them !”
38. To love without condition, To talk without intention, Togive without reason, And to care without expectation is the heart of a true friend.
39. The World belongs to the discontended-Oscar Wilde
40. "For this is the tragedy of man-Circumstances change, but he doesn't"-Machiavelli
41. Think not those faithful who praise thy words and actions but those who kindly reprove thy faults- Socrates
42. Success is more permanent when you achieve it without destroying your principles- Walter Cronkite
43. Managers are concerned with doing things right. Leaders are concerned with doing the right things.
44. There are many things in life more important than money, and they all cost money-Fred Allen
45. Either you are expandable or you are expendable. When you stop Growing , you start dyeing-intellectually,spiritually, emotionally and professionally-Robert H. Schuller
46.If you want happiness, you have to forget about your happiness and look for some one who needs the lift that only you can give-Robert H. Schuller
47.Every competitor is a winner, because he has a courage-Robert H. Schuller
48. It's good to have money and the things that money can buy, But it's good ,too, to check up once in a while and make sure that You haven't lost the things that Money cannot buy-Annonymous
49. “Bad habits are like a comfortable bed. Easy to get into, but hard to get out of.”
50. “The difficulties we experience always illuminate the lessons we need most.”
51.“If you want a place in the sun, you have to expect some blisters.”
52.“Silence has to be a strategy, not a refuge. A weapon and not an escape.”
53. “Life is not about growing up or growing old. It’s about making sure you never stop growing.”
54. “People who spend time on propagating their present achievements, will not find time to grow beyond their current levels.”

55. If you miss an opportunity, don't fill the eyes with tears, it willl hide another better opportunity in front of you.

56. If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it, if a problem can not be solved, what is the use of worrying.

57.Changing the face can change nothing but facing the change can change everything. Don't complain about others, change yourself if you want peace.

58. Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later collection of mistakes is called experience which leads to success.

59. Be bold when you loose and be calm when you win. Heated gold becomes ornament, beated copper becomes wire, depleted stone becomes statue so the more pain you get in life, you become more valuable.

60. Whoever you are or whatever it is that you do, when you really want something, it is because that desire originated in the soul of the universe. A mysterious force would show the way to get it.

61. Don't compare yourself with anyone in this world, if you compare, you are insulting yourself.

62. No one will manufacture a lock without key, similarly God won't give problems without solutions.

63. Life laughs at you when you are unhappy, Life smiles at you when you are happy, Life salutes you when you make others happy.

64. Ever successful person has a painful story, every painful story has a successful ending. Accept the pain and get ready for success.

65. Easy is to judge the other's mistake, difficult is to recognize our own mistakes.

66. No one can go back and change a bad begining but anyone can start now and create a successful ending.

67.Disappointments are realities, Discouragements are reactions.

68. A tree can make 100000 lac match sticks but one match stick can burn 100000 trees. Similarly one negative thought can burn thousands of dreams. So be positive.

69. Pain & Joy go hand in hand. Face it strongly.

70. You may not be responsible for a situation,but you are surely responsible for your reaction.

71. Remember not only to say right thing at the right time but to leave the wrong thing unsaid at the tempting moment.

72. Worrying does not take away tomorrow' troubles, it takes away today's peace.

73. When God solves your problems, you have faith in his abilities; When God does not solve your problems, he has faith in your abilities.

74. Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible.

75. Learn how to climb up but don't forget to learn how to get done.

76. Too much beauty got Sita kidnapped, to much ego got Ravana Killed and too much charity got Raja Bali in deep trouble. Too much anything is bad.Stay away from too much.

77. To be happy one must not be too much concerned with the opinion of others. One should pursue one's goals single -mindedly, with a quiet confidence, without thinking of others.

78. A man will not sell his life to you, but will give it to you for a piece of ribbon.

79.. 'Suck it up and just get on with it'; 'don't let bad things that happen to you stop you'; 'you are in control of your life.

80. Be in a Mud, make do with what you have . Don't seek favours from the system. Respect the guy confronting you, see yourself in him and then, play the game.

81. You Have to dream before your dreams come true- APJ Abdul Kalam

82. “Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs.”Farrah Gray

83. “In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.” Bill Cosby

84. “The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.” Steve Jobs

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Frienship: Few Questions

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