Friends
Exactly 48 years (17532 days)ago, I was born in Jaipur. The journey of life so far is full of actions, happenings, events, struggle, some success, part satisfaction and no contentment. But over all nothing to complain and I am enjoying the present phase of my life. We can't get every thing in life but whatever we get is due to blessings of the God and elders, Good wishes of Friends, Peers, Relatives and society. I never thought of settling in Gujarat in my distant dreams but the circumstances brought me here. I did not know that this is such a good city to live. Very peaceful, full of opportunities, excellent weather conditions, best infrastructure and above all positive environment.
On this auspicious day, I wish to thank my Parents for caring, guiding and supporting in journey of life. I am also very much thankful to my relatives, friends, colleagues who remained with me during every season of life and accepted me as it is. My very special thanks to Shashi, my wife, who is bearing me since last 21 years and has stood behind me like a wall during the worst phases of life. My kids Nikita and Hitisha also deserve my gratitude for giving me the respect and love beyond my expectations.
Today I am entering into 49Th year , next year would be in the range of 50Th year and then soon 60 and then so on. Life would go on , days would come and go, but the memories and experiences would always remain. I would analyse my past 5 decades in following manner:
First Decade : Half to childhood and half to study. More in the arms of mother and holding hands of Father. The decade was fully under the umbrella of parents. Probably sanskars also inducted in me in this decade.
Second Decade: Full of study, completed Graduation and started pursuing CA course. The decade was full of enjoyment with friends, grudging with parents, limitations and checks by the family. Life was very simple.
Third Decade: New vision of life, good academic degree, marriage, kids and all. Became a Man from Boy but professionally full of struggle. Lot of responsibilities.
Fourth Decade: A man with no success in life, lot of struggle, Debt burden and so on. Good social and professional circle but no Luxury.
Fifth Decade: Coming out of struggling phase, kids growing and maturing, settled life and begining of success in life.

I seek the blessings of every one known to me for healthy, wealthy, happy, long life.
CP

Friends
After a gap of 8 days I am on the blog. I am not a disciplined person and hence nothing is planned . I wish to study and write but other priorities and lack of discipline over powers me and thus the gap in writing blog. Whatever be the reason but the fact is that it is lack of discipline and commitment.

When kids are young they don't mind to be guided but soon after schooling they behave like a matured boys/girls where as parents still believe they are infant. This always causes uneasiness amongst the generations. On one side parents feel insulted and other side kids find such behaviour disgusting. Both sides fail to understand each other and the result: Lot of heart burn.
This is going on since beginning and would continue till last the humans are here. We can not correct but control to some extent by understanding each other.
CP

Friends
Last week has seen lot of actions and happenings. Gujarat celebrates Uttarayan (Makar Sakranti) in a big way. The festival is of two days called "uttarayn and Baasi Uttarayan". Another big festival during this time is "Vibrant Gujarat" which is a global business summit of 2 days. This is a mega business event organised by Gujarat Government every alternate year. This event witnesses the presence of many leading industrialists of the country, foreign delegates, other businessman and politicians. This event was mainly on 12th & 13th Jan. In fact there is an exhibition also in the summit and we were the one of the exhibitor in this. The exhibition had started from 10th jan and continued till the weekend. Hence from 12th Jan to 15th Jan it was full of activities but no presence in office.

Yesterday I had to go to Sirohi, Rajasthan to attend funeral of one of my relative who expired at young age due to cancer. Cancer is a disease which enters the body randomly and comes out only when burnt fully with body. It does not allow it self to be thrown out so far. Millions of lives every year are galloped by this dreaded disease. People come to the funeral in much more numbers than those who visit the patient or help the family of the patient. It does not help in any way to the patient. I fail to understand why people do not visit the patient when he/she is struggling with life to at least console the patient and family. At cremation ground often people sit in separate clusters and wait for the fire to completely take the dead body in her arms. During this time the talks of the people, subject matter and topics are really embarrassing and pathetic. Totally irrelevant to the occasion. Now a days, Mobile is one more tool which worsens the situation. Either sitting near the body in the house of the deceased or while carrying it to cremation or during the cremation, people use it so frequently that it looks as if they are forcibly called here and have no sympathy with the family of the deceased. The mobile phone ring tones keep ringing in different modes, sounding romantic music, people roam around to talk on the phones, as if the world is going to fall if they don't handle the phone at this moment. On one side the family is crying and other side people are busy in phones and expressing their ring tones. I believe they just come to show the family that they care but fact is that they come to register their presence only. The body language clearly speaks of their unwillingness to be here but due to social compulsions they have to come. People should be serious and help the family to console in such a condition. Phones should be kept on silent mode and the talks for that one hour at least should be some thing serious or no talks if you dont have topic for that. We take the dead to the cremation ground but never imagine that one day some one would bring us also here. If we can not behave properly, we should not expect from others. The kids of the dead are worst sufferer and their future gets totally spoiled. Only God can help and bless such families.
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Friends
Many times I remember the quote by Shri Harivansh Rai Bachchan that "Mann ka ho to achha aur Na ho to aur bhi achha." I have just experienced this quote though in bitter taste. I was engaged in some investment proposal and me and my team had put in lot of money, time and efforts in this deal. At the last moment when things were going so well, it got in to big trouble and finally got failed. It was really a shocking incidence for us but ultimately the above quote came in mind and now we moving ahead of this. It seems that the soft behaviour, humbleness, faith and positive attitude have worked against the success of the deal. Probably the business world is like this and may be we would change our self in future. Jo hua achha hi hua and we could save ourselves from major financial loss.
When ever we try to help the others beyond the set parameters, it is taken as weakness and never work favourably. We are always taken for granted. Probably god wants us to improve more so we can handle the big issues properly.
I learned a lot from this. One thing which I experienced was that to test a person, one shock is more than sufficient. The behaviour post the shock would reveal the true identity, character of a person,Nature, attitude during crisis. This can be a highly effective tool for any major deal/association.
CP

Friends
Yesterday I was in Mumbai for some official purpose. Day before, I was talking about expectations and efforts. Here is some more on that topic. Expectation is the result of ambition and ambition is because of vision. Vision develops with thinking, seeing the world around, reading and meeting people. When we develop ambition it leads to envious nature. By definition "Envy is an emotion that someone feels when a peer has a possesion or something of value that is something you wish to have. Envy often cause low self-esteem or low self confidence". Envy at certain point leads to jealousness and fear too.
Envy is good to keep ambitions live and work for that. We as human have basic character of envy with any thing we love or hate. Envy can be segregated into two categories i.e. i. Positive Envy and ii. Negative Envy. Positive envy (PE) means we develop envy with some one and work to surpass him without damaging him where as Negative Envy (NE) means not only surpassing the other but also harming him to such an extent that he never becomes challenge in future. Although both kind of envy is the real fire to achieve the ambition but NE is dangerous to the society, family and the world at large. If we look at the history all ambitious people in this world were envy of some one every close to them and mostly were NEs. In Ramayan, Rani Kekayi, wife of Raja Dashrath, was envy of Lord Ram because she found him a big envy in achieving her ambition and that is why she used the Commitment (Var) given by Raja Dasrath to not only put her son Bharat on throne but also to send the Rama to jungle for 14 years with the intention that by that time her son would be powerful enough to tackle any challenge in future. Later Duryodhana also used the dice game for sending the Pandavas, the powerful cousins whoi were ruling Indraprastha successfully, to jungle for 12 years with 1 year of Agyatvas with the intention that his army would find them during the Agyatvas and extend the period by another 12 years. During Mughal period also the enviousness was totally negative where they believed in finishing off the threat at any cost without considering the relationship. In fact in most cases people are envy their close relatives, neighbours or friends. In present days also the politicians not only play the tactics to over come the opponent but also using all weapons to finish off the threat in their ambition forever. The ruling parties use every government agency against the opponenets to silent them and making putting the opponents in a situation where they can never come out of that The same thing is being followed in corporate world. Corporates not only try to surpass their competitors but also see that they finish for ever so no one challenge them in future. Such negative envy is wrong for the civilised society. In fact terrorism is also the result of NE which has become the biggest challenge for the whole world. If we look in deep, terrorists, globally were created and nurtured by some one to fulfill the ambition in negative way. We should develop PE in the new generation and teach that to make the line bigger, don't cut the others' line. Enviousness is good for every body, it works as a tonic to keep going ahead. Those who don't have ambition, would never be envy of any one, but this would lead to no fun in life, no growth, no happiness, no Sadness.

CP

Friends
First working day of this decade and year 2011.Even for most of the colleges and schools this is the first working day. New year celebration is going in full swing. People are yet to be back in normal mind set. Expectations and Efforts need to be synchronised properly so that at the end of the year we feel satisfied about the results of the year. In fact only date changes, nothing else change. Same weather, wind, clouds, sun, earth, surroundings all remain same but for self assessment we fix a time period and analyse. All the occasions like Birthday, Anniversary, New Year, festivals and all are on fixed date and that is how it helps in analysis between the two such events.
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Friends
Wish you all Very Very Happy, Healthy and Prosperous Year 2011. This is the first blog post of this year and also the first of this second decade of Twenty first Century. Today Nikita went back to Bangalore to resume the college after 10 days' vacations. Hitisha still with us as she is undergoing internship with a leading newspaper.
Recently I was thinking about a plot in Mahabharat epic where:
"Raja Dhritrashtra, Bhishma Pitamah, Guru Dronacharya, Korava heir Duryodhan, Raja Karna and all other family members, dignitaries were sitting. The game of dias had just finished with Pandavas losing every thing including making themselves slaves and also losing Dropadi to Duryodhan. It was the time when Dushasan was ready to insult Dropadi. He dragged out Dropadi from other room to the main hall by hairs. She was crying and begging mercy from every one right from Korava brothers to Bhishma Pitamah. No one could dare to stop Dushasan and other 100 korava brothers from doing anything they wish to Dropadi. Every one had their own excuse like Dhritrashtra , convincing himself for his blindness and also logic that since pandavas have lost the game, he is helpless in this matter. Bhisma Pitamah was convinced that he is committed to Hastinapur kingdom and hence can't help any body else except hastinapur king i.e. Raja Dhritrashtra only. Guru Dronacharya, Korav Brothers, and all other were just followers of Bhishma Pitamaha or Raja Dhritrashtra and finding excuse of not interfering. When all this was happening, Pandavas were sitting in a corner with head down and hands tied up(as they could not see all this happening with Dropadi) and helpless. One Brother's deeds (Dharamraj yudishther's) had put every one in big problem".
In above situation Minister Vidur stood up and requested Bhishma Pitamah to do some thing to stop all this as the Dropadi was bahu of the family. He also requested to Raja Dhritrashtra, Guru Dronacharya and all but nothing moved. Finally he announced his resignation and said that "for every fault 50% responsibility is of person doing the crime, 25% of the person facing the crime and rest 25% of the person who is silent." With this he went out of the court.
Thus he made responsible for this crime all the elders sitting there and watching all this happening. Silence is also a crime, particularly by those who are powerful enough in stopping the crime happening. In present situation this applies to our honest politicians who may not be corrupt but have been mute spectator, it also applies to bureaucrats, our elders, our boss, and every other one who refuse to interfere and stop the injustice happening.
Above plot also leads to following conclusions:
1. You may be too powerful but don't try to push your self in a situation which is not in your control or else you may be in a big soup.
2. You can put yourself in any situation but you don't have right to drag others also who are dependent you like your spouse, brothers, kids, Parents, employees, friends etc.
3. Before jumping into unknown water please test it properly.
4. Don't trust blindly.
5. When you are powerful enough, any of your deed is acceptable.
5. No body is going to oppose your injustice till those around you are getting benefit from you.
6. We all are selfish and always work for our benefit at whatever cost or harm to any body else.
This epic/story is about 5000 years old, but the morals are same even today.
CP