Friends
Expectations and Aspirations are the key reasons of frustration & depression in the present world. A person when grows and starts understanding this world aspire to achieve every thing under this sun. Then gradually with some efforts, luck, positioning, environment, support and attitude he moves to the desired direction, he achieves some and fails in some but expectations continue to move forward. At certain point he surrenders quietly and pass on the unfulfilled expectations to the next generation. All unfulfilled aspirations are passed on intelligently to the next generation. He cooks up various great stories about himself and equally strong reasons for not achieving certain aspirations. All the failures are due to some one else' fault and hence he starts looking through the eyes of next generation. He commands the kids to do what he could not achieve and if the new generation does not follow his dream he gets frustrated and ultimately into depression. I agree that parents have every right on the kids to fall upon them but why one should attach to such an extent that it generates depression and frustration.
In many cases parents dictate to the kids to select a career of their choice and also the stringent parameters to achieve that. Through out the life they reprimand and insult the kids for less number of marks or lesser achievement. Such parents don't leave any space for the kids to speak up their desires and when they grow up they carry very less confidence. They find it very difficult to create their own space in this world and ultimately become a tool without self guidance and direction. Parents should avoid and never dictate such things to the kids. They should be given proper direction and support to achieve whatever they aspire. Would it not be good to see the kids successful in whatever they desired and that too with the support of parents. Such kids are always full of self confidence and energy to fight in this competitive world. They just need guidance and support of the parents nothing more than that.
CP