It was 8th February 1991 evening, after long gap I earned some fees from a client and immediately thereafter got a call that Shashi is not feeling well and had to be rushed to hospital. Then next day morning 9th feb we were blessed with Nikita. Kids grew and suddenly grown to such extent that now they need to be away from parents for higher studies. She has moved to Bangalore for higher studies and it was really very emotional week for me and family to live without Nikita. I found her more confident and stronger than me in all senses. It is beyond my imagination that she is managing every thing on her own that too in unknown city and college. Time moves very fast and you feel the impact suddenly. Suddenly I am reminded that it is already 18 years since she arrived on this planet where as I was treating her as the same child . God gives us beautiful gifts, allow us to bond with them and suddenly puts on test to live without such wonderful gifts. It would be a different experience of life watching the kids grow on their own.

My best wishes would always be there for her great career ahead.

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Relationship and Internet

Friends

I like to discuss about another hot topic of present days i.e. Relationship build through Internet. It is general perception and true too to some extent that the relationship based on Internet is very short term, full of selfishness, wrong details and more of instant happiness. This back ground of relationship built through internet reflects on the acceptance in society of such relation. Rarely one come across to a transparent and pure relationship through internet. May be after ten years this would be major source of relationship building but at present it carries the bad stigma. It would take long time to wash out such stigma. Another perception about the internet is that it is useless rather harmful tool of wasting time and building wrong relation building. Although internet is widely used for developing business relationships but as far as social relationship is concerned, it is still far behind. Despite the fact that internet has helped many people to find the good business relationship, life partners, job etc., it is still treated as taboo as far as friendship is concerned.

I feel that if internet is used in proper manner and cautiously it is full of good people who can be worth friendship. But the route to find such persons is very long and one may or may not end up with his search. Since internet is also used by matured people who are from good families and they also need honest friends, there is always good possibility of good interaction. However the stigma would always remain that such relations are not created by birth or social events and hence may continue to find the resistance from the society. May be in coming decades the stigma would be washed out and this source of relation building would be accepted at par with other ways of building relationship.

What you say?

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".....And I killed My Rabbit-II"

Friends

Do you remember the story ".....And I killed my Rabbit". This was mentioned by me in the post dated 19th August, 2008. Today is time again to disclose it further. Rabbit is the name of friendship who is always trapped in various situation and then who so ever traps it, kills it. Fortunately Rabbit is immortal and can not be killed.

In fact Peter is not smart enough to keep the Rabbit safe despite the best guidance and support from Vera and that causes lot of hardship to Vera and Rabbit without their fault. He has been groomed through out the life under the aura of honesty, integrity and truthfulness. He does not know how to hide, what to hide and what should be disclosed. He simply followed one principle of transparency and that became the root cause of his problems. Let me give you some detailed back ground of this story. Peter and Swete with two lovely daughters named Neve and Hillaria are one family. Other side Vera and Dickson too have two handsome kids Merill and Prince. So in this story 8 people are involved and directly concerned. Both are happy and well to do families full of joy and enjoyment. On one side Peter's wife Swete is quite possessive of peter and hence hates Vera and Rabbit. Whereas Dickson is a matured guy and respects the Rabbit. He knows about the Peter-Vera relations. He rather appreciates the purity and transparency of this relationship but bit shy too to move further. Swete is not in position to understand the sentiments attached to Rabbit. She fears of her family and whenever sees the Rabbit alone kills it. Of late the impact of Rabbit has started percolating down to Neve , Hillaria, Merrill and Prince. Every one loves Rabbit but feels helpless. They are too premature to understand the Rabbit. For the Rabbit the truth and honesty of Peter has become curse instead of blessing. In fact Peter does not know how to hide, what to hide and what to disclose and thus time and again he puts the Rabbit on risk. It happens quite often that except Peter and Vera every one curses Rabbit for disturbance and then tries to kill whenever chance comes. Peter the poor fellow succumbs to the pressure all the time and tries to distant himself from Rabbit, leaving it in the cruel hands. The fact remains that Peter and Vera are brother-Sister and wish to keep that relationship. So the Rabbit is combination of friendship converted to bro-sis relation.

Another aspect of this story is that Peter could not give anything to Vera out of this friendship except the sad moments very often. She did not enjoy the relation and always gave chance to peter to handle the situation properly. It is the greatness of Vera to accommodate Peter always despite lot of abuses and curses from Swete. She even tries to console herself without knoledge of Dickson. She virtually hides her sorrow from outside world fearing that this world would then start advising her too to kill the Rabbit. She always cures the Rabbit and again handover to Peter. But what poor Peter could give her except tears every now and then. The fact of life is "You Can give only what you have" and hence Peter could give that only. Peter was always advised to dump Vera and Rabbit but no one thought of the situation of Peter and Vera. They built the relationship after so much efforts and no one look to the other side of the story. But it was not the fault of others because they are normal guys and could see whatever normal eyes can see. Whatever happens, it is the Rabbit, Peter and Vera who suffer most and many a times Peter threw away the Rabbit out of fear and frustration, but Rabbit is there inside his heart and can not be wiped out. Peter cries whenever Rabbit is killed, Vera too cries and then both take the mortals of Rabbit, pray to God and with the blessings of God Rabbit gets alive. Probably God is testing the Peter Vera relation.

In my view Peter should know how to handle this world. The foolishness of peter causes the damage to Rabbit and hurts Vera. May be Vera repents the moment she became friend of Peter and gave birth to Rabbit. In this world integrity, faith, truth and honesty are important but also there exists smartness, cunningness, lies, acting etc. The world needs all otherwise the bad things would have become extinct by now. Peter should understand that truth is good but lie also is also very important so many times. Astrologers know the future but never tell the truth just for the benefit of the concerned person. Every time truth and honesty don't work. Rather they are very harmful for the family and personal life. Initially I used to think that Truth, Honesty and Integrity are the only good words in life but after reading this story I need to change my views that many a times telling lies or hiding some thing are good for every one. The world would never understand the Rabbit and continue to kill as and when they get the chance. This is not the end of story and I would disclose more about the story soon.

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Relationship

Dear Friends

What can be the value of a relation? Is there any scale in this world which can value a relation in terms of money or any other methodology? Many relations in life bear no value for a long period and suddenly become quite important and precious. Where as many relations go other way i.e. quite precious initially and suddenly become a obstacles. Why it happens? Is it the situation or the purpose or the challenges faced by such relation. Every relation faces challenges and has to come clean from the tests. No relation can be termed permanently as big or small, precious or useless, close or distant, real or cousin, etc. Till any relation involves a human being, it is of equal importance. It is only the time and situation which decides the importance of a relation for the present otherwise in future all the relations are equally important and respectable. I also noticed that almost all the relations are perceived differently by different persons. A relation may be useless for some but may be highly precious for the other. It seems the relationships are totally guided by the emotions and attitudes. The key to a successful relationship is emotional attachment and mutual respect.

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Friends

Recently finished the book named "OUTLIERS, The Story of Success" by Malcolm Gladwell. It is an unique book in the sense that the assumptions, the analysis for the successful people is totally from different angles. Though this over focus on certain points but still it is worth reading. The book points to the fact that there is some more to a success then whatever is talked about. The creation of opportunity is one which is very crucial too. Then the history of a person, his forefathers, cultural history, their activities also equally important in shaping a successful career. It is really important to know about the past history of a person and past means not 100 yrs only but about 500 yrs back history too. As per the writer all these factors shape a persons' personality. To become an Outlier not only you need to work hard and develop excellence but also lucky enough to find the right opportunity. The book analyses in depth about many outliers and proves the point effectively.

I had been travelling extensively since last 15 days due to various social and professional reasons. Got another book to support me . Let me finish it so I can share my views. I would also request you all to suggest me good books to read. There is lot to talk about various issues mainly related with career, relationship, family, society and all which in next few days shall find the space on this blog.

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