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Parents play very crucial role in the life of kids. This role is the key factor in shaping the destiny of kids. The career, character, attitude, everything get shaped on the basis of parents' role and attitude towards them in the life of kids. They have to be their mentor, guide, guardian, friends, peers etc. time to time as per the need of the hour. It is very sensitive issue particularly when the kids are in growing age of 15-25 years. They need emotional support which only parents can extend in the present social system. A slight misunderstanding can spoil the kids and hence we need to handle such situation delicately. They can achieve anything if we support and loose everything if we do not.

We human beings can not live for a long in static situation. The actions leads to result which may or may not be as per our wish but the efforts have to be made continuously. Sometimes the efforts do not produce the desired results but probably God wants us to either wait for some more time or put more efforts next time. We the creation of God should accept it and move further.

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"When an egg breaks by a power outside, a life ends....When it breaks by a power inside, a life begins.....Great things always begin from the power inside......."
Have you ever seen the chicken coming out of an egg. It has to struggle a lot before getting free from the shell. No one can help it to get free and if we do so, it would never be able to live in this world. An eagle takes its' baby to the height and then drops it to the ground. It survives and start flying. If the eagle does not take that risk, the baby eagle would never be able to scale up the height and live in this world. Even an elephant when gives birth to its calf the first thing it does is to kick the new born and make it stand up with in seconds of birth. If the elephant does not do that the calf would never be able to stand up and live in this world. The crux of the above fact is that we should use our internal power to get the things done rather than depending on the others to do for us. No one in this world is obliged to serve us without any benefit. Be it politician, Businessmen, Beurocrates, relatives, peers, and most of the friends. Internal power is a magnate which not only attracts the outside forces to get the things done but also creates power around us to build relationship.
In 1930, when Mahatma Gandhi started Dandi Yatra to violate the Salt Rulre, he never requested for the public to join him or wait for the people to follow him. He just commenced journey without looking back and people joined him day by day. In our life too, if we look back there are many instances which prove that internal power is the only factor which has taken us to the present level. No body would help us beyond certain point to achieve the goal, it is only the internal power or confidence which was the deciding factor.

Another thought these days in mind is about the gain and pain of Wait. There is always some time gap between the action and result. This period is called waiting period. It is one the most painful period when you are not sure about the outcome of the actions. The period is always full of confusion, doubt,fear and uncertainty. It is very easy to say than face such situation. It is always advised that one should enjoy the waiting period. This is supported by the quotes like "Karam Kiye Ja Fal ki Ichha Mat Kar Tu Insaan", "Jo hoga achha hoga", "Mann ka ho to achha, Na ho to aur bhi achha" "Intejaar ka Fal Meetha hota hai" etc. But the fact remains that it is very painful journey between the action and result. That is the point where we remember god and leave everything to him.
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Writing something on blog is easiest thing provided we don't care about the quality of contents and just write whatever comes to the mind. The pressure on kids to out perform every one in this world is increasing day by day. Recently about 400 students of commerce stream got 100% marks and still could not get the admission in LSR college, Delhi. I agree that these days the kids are much ahead then previous generations in the matter of intelligence but the parameters of intelligence are totally shaded by percentage. In fact the excitement and pride of the news of some body getting 'x' percentage does instantly get faded with instance of 'Y' getting higher marks. This nullifies the performance of 'x' and then 'y' and then so on... We all (students, teachers and Parents) forget that marks is nothing but the report card of a particular moment when some one may be doing better than others but it does not mean that all other students are weak. One may be weak in academics but stronger in other areas (like business, sports, painting, creativity etc. etc.). There are in numerable areas of activities which are open for great career in present days and believe me offer even better opportunities than academics. Parents don't appreciate the career other than academics and hence pressurise the kids to focus only on academics. It is not fair and good for the peace and happiness of the families. History proves that those who scored 'D' grades were capable enough to hire 'A' grade students. In fact moderate marks in academics creates entrepreneurship, humbleness,confidence, Creativity and risk taking abilities in the students who in later part of the life become very successful.
I have seen the shyness, frustration and fear in the eyes of children with lesser marks or failure in academics which is mainly because of pressure from the colleagues and high expectations by the parents and society. They feel their dreams shattered and start loosing confidence day by day and finally getting frustrated or going into depression. In my view the children not highly successful in academics should take it as a blessing in disguise and move forward. Probably God wants them to be successful in other areas which are much ahead than the career provided by academics. Parents should promote such children to excel in other activities and build career. This will help the children, parents and their families to prove their capability in areas which interests them.
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I had been to Jaipur during this weekend. The visit was absolutely for social events. Attending a marriage in native is always great opportunity for me. It gives me a chance to meet cousins and many other close relatives, to know about them, families and all, to meet small small kids who may not be knowing me but are integral part of the family.
Another social event was the 100Th Birthday of my Grand Mother-in-Law. This event gave me golden opportunity to meet many of my brother in laws, and other close family members from In laws side, after a gap of more than 10 years in some cases. It is not easy to organise such events unless one wish from the heart. I could sense and feel the warmth of love and affection in the family of in laws in caring every one with respect, love and affection. The time they spent despite the busy schedule is really adorable. Cost does not matter but the thoughts and emotions attached to organise such events is really adorable. I thank all of them to give me such opportunity.
Eyes are the best mirror on the human face. No one can hide emotions from them and any body can read that emotions from the eyes. Eyes indicate confidence, shyness, respect, love, affection, craziness, cunningness, anger, suspicion, happiness, joy, warmth, sorrow and so on. Tears support the eyes in both joy and sorrow. Generally men can control the tears better than women but still no one can control the eyes. Tears do not matter to read the eyes. We can sense the inner thoughts of any body thru eyes and this is what I meant about the events meant referred above. I saw that love, affection and respect in the people during these events.
Another great feeling is to see the children growing. Small kids just in their nappies becoming engineer, doctor, CA, or so on gives the tough exercise to mind to believe all this. What we were doing, their thought process, technical and professional skills, etiquette are much beyond the people of my generation. They can know the personality of a person by just blink of eyes in fraction of seconds whereas we are still analysing after decades. The confidence in them to lead the life independently is tremendous. Such joyful surprises were every where in social events where the kids are much ahead to their parents or relatives like us. US President Barack Obama is really telling the truth to Americans to be aware from the brilliance of Indians. I can understand now why he is feeling heat. Our kids are much ahead in every field and can take on the world easily. I wish all these kids who are presently in the process of becoming successful human beings a great success.
Presently reading a book "Blink" by Malcolm Gladwell who has also authored Outliers and The Tipping Point. Like his other books, Blink is very interesting and I am enjoying this book.
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