Social Responsibility-II

Friends
I fully agree with the comment posted on blog on the subject "Social Responsibility" by Vinita on my posting of 25th February 2009. Avoiding any relation is almost impossible and in my view too the fulfillment of social responsibility is bigger than said. Whenever we build a relation it can not be left in middle. It only nurtures further and there is nothing like closing or carry forwarding. It develops automatically on its own. Only the routes are decided by the design of social fabric, its limitations, its acceptance and nature of relation. Its growth may be sometimes visible and sometimes invisible. But the very existence and continuous growth of such relation can not be denied. I also believe no relation can be nurtured one sided and once it is conceived, it only grows on it's own. Commitment, Purity, Understanding and Responsibility are the basis of any relation. If one has all these ingredients, no relation can remain unnurtured. It may take time but it always exists. Probably it has to pass though tests of patience.

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Social Responsibilty

Friends

I wish to share one typical topic with you. It can be called as "Social Responsibility". During the course of our upbringing from childhood to the last leg of life, we are covered by social fabric and governed by the cultures, social systems, sanskars etc.. This cover of social fabric is made of parents, brother, sisters, children and many more relatives. It protects us, guide us and develops our capability. It helps in achieving the goals and further develop the family and society. We have got particular responsibilities, attachments and interactions with particular relation. During the course of our life this fabric cover Many a times we try to leave this cover behind and try to torn out too. It widens with addition of new relations and also some times it strains due to mismatch of views and personal interests. We are equally responsible to damage this fabric. The strain in the fabric also leads to irresponsibility towards certain relations. I believe this irresponsibility turns into big mental burden during the course of time. When ever in any relation we become irresponsible It hurts you always every time every where.

Friends this often happens when we turn away from the parents or elder ones or some one we are very much attached may be due to our mistake or some others' mistakes or circumstances beyond our control . Also sometimes we build a relation, name it and take the responsibility to maintain and suddenly we feel helpless to take it forward. It all creates mental burden and lead us to a guilt feeling. I believe either we should not develop a relation or else should honour it with full respect. It is our responsibility to nurture and care the relation. This relation can be in any form be it a friend, brother, sister, teacher, partner, or whatever. I believe any irresponsibility towards such relation would lead to a great mental burden and may continue forever because we cant make any body responsible except our selves. The cost of honouring the relation is much less than avoiding or becoming irresponsible.

What you say?

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Friends

I am sorry again for the gap in posting on blog. Global economic effect has now fully gripped India too. It is quite visible now on the faces of most of the people and may continue for some moe time.

In recent times, I met many businessman who were on seventh sky during boom time and now highly depressed. I can read their body language and probably only reason which I could find common is the wish to run ahead from every one else. We human beings are always knowingly or unknowingly under pressure from the peers, society and friends circle to perform the best and stay ahead. Somewhere I also noticed that root cause is always fuelled by dream and frustration. It is leading to the wrong business decisions. We always look to the known people who have achieved better than us and then we also start taking risks. The failure takes its toll but that does not mean success is non existent for failing persons. I believe failure is only signalling that the decisions need to be changed and reviewed. It does not mean one should stop taking the decisions and get frustrated. I also noticed that social pressure to perform is very high and probably family members are more to be blamed for such things. In my view there is always 'Tomorrow' and opportunities would always flow in.

The pressure is also on the kids studying, who are always being pushed to study as if nothing would remain for them if they get less than 99% . This feeling needs to be changed. Friends as a parents we should give the best possible facilities to the children to carry out study but it does not mean we expect them to perform as per our wish. I am sure even we never performed as per our parents' wish then how we can expects our children to fulfill our wish. It is really surprising to notice that we even at the age of 40-45 yrs start thinking that now children will do some big and we have played our innings fully. Infact our innings starts at this age. This passing of the dream to kids is probably our frustration and need to be stopped. We all are created by God and he has planned out for every human beings. We should give whatever we have but should never expect in return what we dream. There are innumerable opportunities available in this beautiful world to excel and believe me most of the opportunities are not backed by high education or at least High percentage. We should give them mental space and allow them to do whatever they wish. Let the flowers bloom , they themselves would make space for them and spread the beautiful fragrance they would develop. We should perform our duties and concentrate on work instead of passing the bucks to weak shoulder of kids. I believe they are more capable to exel then us.

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Friends

I wish to share with you some of the failures in life. Probably you would also find some of them common. The purpose is to understand the life, power of destiny and power of struggle. I don't intend to boast of myself but just to share the experience.

1. In 1979 and 1980 appeared for CA entrance examinations, both time failed. So to do CA the only option was to get admission after graduation. May be I could have saved one year in completing CA.

2. In 1981, approached to more than 100 CA firms in Jaipur for admission and to my embarrassment no one found me suitable for article ship and denied. I did not know any one this fraternity to help me and hence the only way to get the admission to cold all the firms in the city. This I found by searching the boards of the firms displayed in the market. Finally one of the father's friend helped me in getting admission with a freshly qualified CA. If not then, it was impossible to get this qualification.

3. In 1983, applied for industrial training to more than 30 companies based Pan India but got call from TISCO, Ranbaxy, LIC and couple of other companies. So went to Delhi in Ranbaxy, appeared for interview and with in two minutes thrown out of the cabin. Went to TISCO, Jameshedpur. Took some dharamshala room there , went to the company for interview. Again thrown out of the cabin in two minutes. In fact from jaipur it took about 48 hrs to reach Jamshedpur and another 48 hrs to return back. I was not as per their expectations and hence thrown out. However I was reimbursed second class train fare of travelling there. Most of the companies did not found me suitable and when LIC agreed to take but my Boss did not allow me to go there. Probably I would have ended in serving big organisations.

3. In 1983, after clearing CA (Inter) , I appeared for interview to Rajasthan Financial Corporation, but not selected. Simultaneously I passed exam for clerical job in RBI, appeared for interview but nothing worked out.

4. In 1985, after appearing in final examination of CA, I approached many companies for job but could not get. Finally got one job in mumbai in a private firm but could not stay for more than a month.

5. In 1985, after completing CA joined a CA firm. Left this firm in 7 months to start my own.

6. In 1986 started my own small firm. Struggled for 6 years but could not succeed and had to close down. Also in this year got first vehicle on my own. This was a moped and I bought by arranging a loan.

7. In 1992, moved again to mumbai , got a job in an engineering firm but could not stay more than 28 days.

8. In 1992, Got a job in a big firm, waited outside the reception for the whole day and later thrown out.

9. In 1992, Got another job in a very small firm and left in 3 months.

10. In 1992 got asthma and started getting sick.

11. In 1992 got a job in a medium sized firm and stayed for 16 months.

12. In 1993 asthma became part of the life and fell sick for most part of the year.

13. In 1994, Health forced me to leave the city and a good job.

14. In 1994 moved to Ahmedabad and again struggled to find a house and job to settle. Got a job in a small firm and left in 3 months.

15.In 1994, Got another job in a good company but did not stay beyond 12 months.

16. In 1995 Got another job and stayed for a day.

17. In 1995 Again found a good job and stayed for 15 months.

18. In 1996, applied to almost 50 vacancies but no one invited.

19. In 1997, fully frustrated and with no job possibility, started my own. And also bought first car on my own. It was Maruti 800 and got it through support of bank loan. It took 12 years post qualification to buy a car.

20. I never got promotion in my career.

21. I never got luxury of good life style while in job.

22. I never got applause from the peers or superiors during the job.

23. I could never fit into the politics of job and always had to leave mainly for this reason.

24. Till 22 yrs of my career (post qualifiaction), I always was burdened with debts sometime huge and sometimes slightly lower.

Dont you feel it happens with every one? If I can come out of such struggle any one can do it.
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Friends
The Book "Be an extra ordinary person in an ordibnary world" is a nice book. Mr. Schuller used a different style of teaching in this book by citing true stories and experiences. He has mentioned about many people of different areas who struggled and took the challenges in life head on and succeed. Being a very small book it would not take much time to finish.
Other book currently with me is by Subroto Bagchi "Go Kiss the World". This book is probably second after his very successful book named "The high performance entrepreneur". The book gives complete insight about the social, personl and professional challenges. It proves to get the success you need not have god father or born with silver spoon in mouth, it needs courage, vision and team work. It gives lot of learning about the challenges in life and if read properly can help a lot in realising the dreams. The book once started would be difficult to put aside without finishing.
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Friends

Just started another book by Subroto Bagchi named "Go Kiss the world". A wonderful insight about the struggle before a success. Before this book I also finished a very short and sweet book by Robert Schuller "Be an extraordinary person in an ordinary world". Mr. Schuller is a renowned internbational write who has written more than 30 books including most popular "Tough time never lasts but tough people do". I would share the contents of these book soon.

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Nikita's Birthday

Friends

Today is birthday of Nikita, my eldest daughter. It was exactly 18 years back when I became father first time. It gives a great feeling to be a father, you feel elevated. Your responsibilities multiplies immediately. I wish a very happy birthday to her with great success in career and long life.

I remember the time when she was born. In 1991 I was struggling as a practicing Chartered Accountant. It was too tough to meet both the ends. I was totally dissatisfied and could not afford any comfort of life in those days. But God is great and gifted me this beautiful child when everything else was against me this favour came from the almighty. I am very thankful to the God for this wonderful gift.

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Life Incidences-II

Friends

One more incident from the era of my mumbai stay in 1993. While in Mumbai, of late I developed asthama and was mostly on bed in late 1993. Infact this desease is the root cause of my presence in Ahmedabad today. The medicines were not responding properly and had to take off from the job quite often. One side job was not satisfactory and other the health was not allowing me to move further. After many days of my illness, a phase of deep frustration was going on. In those days both the daughters were quite young, Nikita 2 and half yrs and Hitisha 6 months. Nikita used to watch me probably she was happy that I am at home with her but also was noticing lot of trouble, I was facing ,due to breathing trouble and hacking cough. One day when I was having deep breathing trouble, Shashi had gone to take some medicines, Hitisha was nerby playing. Nikita came to me and told papa you just lie down I would cure you. To my surprise she put hair band on her head and took an old lock in her little hand . I just followed her to notice what she was upto. She put the lock on my chest and behaved as if she is a doctor having stethoscope to check me. Then she told papa now you would be OK because I have cured you. Believe me soon I moved to Ahmedabad and started recovering due to change in weather conditions. Later this desease became a matter of history.

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